So, I am unclear how your chat with "Francis" would aid them, or what exactly you think your question answers that mine doesn't?
Ask how what St. Francis de Sales wrote fits in with the intention of the lay sede assisting at an R&R mass:
"The Council does not say that it is necessary to have the particular intention of the Church (for otherwise Calvinists, who have no intention in Baptism of taking away original sin, would not baptize rightly since the Church has that intention) but only the intention of doing in general what the Church does when she baptizes, without particularising or determining the what or the how. "
"Again, the Council does not say that it is necessary to mean to do what the Church of Rome does, but only in general what the Church does, without particularising which is the true Church. Yea if a man, thinking that the pretended Church of Geneva was the true Church, should limit his intention to the intention of the Church of Geneva, he would indeed be in error if ever man was in error, in his knowledge of the true Church ; but his intention would be sufficient in this point, since, although it would point to the idea of a counterfeit Church, still it would only have its real significance in the idea of the true Church, and the error would only be material, not, as our Doctors say, formal. "