I am beyond confused these days. I've actually been considering switching to an eastern rite.
Not getting too wrapped up in all the bs will help unconfuse you.
If you know you have a valid trad priest, then Deo Gratias because you have more than many, and with that you have enough to save your soul. And with that *if* you do not save your soul, you will have only yourself to blame.
If you don't know, then find out. Sometimes that means asking the priest himself. But avoid all the extraneous crap and get right to the business at hand, saving your soul.