Tele,
1.) All the bishops are not fiving sinful commands in matters of faith and morals. In fact they are commanding nothing these days.
2.) Where the bishop is there the Church is? What do you mean by this?
3.) Military analogy is simple. You have no authority to personally decide an officer who gave an unlawful order is not an officer because of it. You have the right to disobey the unlawful order. That is it. The officer is judged by the military courts or his commanding officer. Not you.
4.) Manifest heretic is a member of the Church until the Church (not you) says he is not a member. In the meantime, if he holds an office over you, you refuse to obey sinful commands and petition the Church to remove him.
5.) Refusing to obey sinful commands is judging the sinfulness of an act which is entirely different from judging whether the giver of the command loses his office. The former we do all the time and is a judgment we all must make (morality). It does not cause anarchy because it is not a judgment of persons or their office which is the job of the Church, not you or I.
I accept the bishop as bishop all the time. Disobeying a bishop is not the same as not "accepting" him as bishop. I have authority to make moral decisions for the sake of my soul because I am directly responsible for my soul, not my bishop. Thus I have authority to make moral decisions regarding any orders my bishop gives me.
6.) A bishop does not command or require you to give money, so you still would not be disobeying if you did not do so.
7.) Bishop has never said I'm forbidden to go to SSPX. If he did, he would be in direct contradiction to the PCED. The PCED has jurisdiction over matters regarding the juridical status of the Society, not the local ordinaries. It would be like my bishop forbidding me to go to any other Mass Rome has said it would not be sinful to go to.
8.) Even if the PCED said not to go, again it is a moral judgment regarding my soul. By choosing to disobey the PCED in a specific instance I'm not denying the PCED is a Pontifical Commission, nor do I deny their authority in principle. I would be choosing to disobey a specific command. That act of disobedience would be judged by moral principles. In certain cases disobedience can be justified, and so on.
You (and sedes) confuse legitimate moral judgments with judging the offices and office holders in the Church which we have no authority to do. I'm not sure how else to state this. It is really self-evident.