They are blind sheep following a, for all intents and purposes, blind shepherd and hireling bishops.
They want to do the right thing, but can only do it within the limits prescribed to them by their authorities. Their true sensus Catholicus is suppressed out of a false sense of obedience. They are told that their natural longing for Tradition is but a "preference" and to offer up the altar girls, EM's, CITH and guitars if their "preference" is not deigned to be given them by their local ordinary. The same ordinary who allows one TLM at 8 am in an inconvenient location while clapping hands at his local rock Mass.
The best thing to do is pray for grace in the form of a holy and just anger to finally come upon these souls so that they take the stones they were given for bread, throw them away, and demand their birthright from the wolves. Then when the wolves refuse shake the dust from their feet and find true shepherds.
Life is too damn short to go to the Novus Ordo Mass.