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Offline icarlytradcath

Re: A feminist is...
« Reply #65 on: August 17, 2026, 09:27:54 AM »
Quote from: Gray2023 on August 17, 2026, 09:07:42 AM
Now how did your examples above show empathy.

Here is what I think empathy looks like.  I saw a woman with an embarrassing head covering (they were the ones that could be borrowed) a yellow mesh that looks nothing like a veil.  I felt how uncomfortable that was for the her, so I provided a better veil.  Do men do that?

All the time and instinctively. Men help people out because they emphatize with them (being stranded by the side of the road) and know they would greatly appreciate help if they were them, and will greatly appreciate it in the future when they do need it.

Though my example was more about true empathy versus projection, a man understands that if they were a low IQ man brought up in South Sudan's cινιℓ ωαr and animism who moved to Norway, they would have little moral qualms with stealing from a store. Women struggle with this more, they project their own current self into such people.
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Offline icarlytradcath

Re: A feminist is...
« Reply #66 on: August 17, 2026, 09:38:32 AM »
Quote from: Gray2023 on August 17, 2026, 09:07:42 AM
Now how did your examples above show empathy.

Here is what I think empathy looks like.  I saw a woman with an embarrassing head covering (they were the ones that could be borrowed) a yellow mesh that looks nothing like a veil.  I felt how uncomfortable that was for the her, so I provided a better veil.  Do men do that?

Even this is a bit of what I'm talking, you find yellow meshes garish so you assumed she wanted a different one, but perhaps she didn't find it garish or didn't care all that much.
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Offline icarlytradcath

Re: A feminist is...
« Reply #67 on: August 17, 2026, 09:48:52 AM »
Quote from: icarlytradcath on August 17, 2026, 09:38:32 AM
Even this is a bit of what I'm talking, you find yellow meshes garish so you assumed she wanted a different one, but perhaps she didn't find it garish or didn't care all that much.
I'll give an anecdote that happened to me today: a man confided in me about scrupulosity, now I am not scrupulous, if anything I sin the opposite direction, but I understand that he is, and if I was him it would be debilitating and horrible, I would also think a certain way and need to hear certain things, so I told him what I thought he needed to hear.
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Offline Gray2023

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Re: A feminist is...
« Reply #68 on: August 17, 2026, 10:22:26 AM »
Quote from: icarlytradcath on August 17, 2026, 09:38:32 AM
Even this is a bit of what I'm talking, you find yellow meshes garish so you assumed she wanted a different one, but perhaps she didn't find it garish or didn't care all that much.
I was thanked profusely after and that was the second women I did that for.  A man even saw me do it and thanked me. I felt her embarrassment and reacted accordingly.

I am sorry to say, but I think because you are a man you think you understand something you really don't.  

The question is will you humbly study the subject better or will you continue to think that men do all things better than women?
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Offline Gray2023

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Re: A feminist is...
« Reply #69 on: August 17, 2026, 11:33:37 AM »
Quote from: icarlytradcath on August 17, 2026, 09:38:32 AM
Even this is a bit of what I'm talking, you find yellow meshes garish so you assumed she wanted a different one, but perhaps she didn't find it garish or didn't care all that much.
This statement is funny to me.  You really don't understand that women care about these things.

Aren't you projecting here?
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