Absolutely Patti. You've got mine as well. Know that there are many of us in a similar situation. My husband and I go to mass once every other month 3.5-4.0 hours away even when there is a diocesan TLM only 20-30 minutes away now.
I am with you about avoiding the diocesan TLM. I consider the Novus Ordo priests to be doubtful so I avoid them. Now at Ridgefield, where my priest comes from, there is a former Novus Ordo priest who was not conditionally ordained. Thankfully he has not said Mass at my chapel, but he might in the future. I do not know what to do if he comes to say Mass. Would it be best to just walk out and go home if I see him there? Or would it be okay to stay for Mass but just not go to communion. I would not confess my sins to him or receive the bread he tried to consecrate for communion because he might not be a priest. I so wish the SSPX would conditionally ordain all those priests who come from the Novus Ordo. Sigh.
I would probably walk out.
I know which priest you are speaking of and he was not only ordained in the New Rite, but the bishop who ordained him was consecrated in the New Rite. Double whammy for sure. That alone makes me seriously question why the SPPX thinks his ordination passes their validity test. I *might* be able to better understand their conclusion if the bishop was consecrated in the Old Rite.
I would not walk out, least ways not until I asked him about his ordination and what the SSPX had to say about it. If the priest is not the enemy, he should be willing, if not happy to answer your questions. Certainly since he left the bogus ordo, he understands why one would have such questions and will give you a direct answer.
When I couldn't see them before hand, I have asked priests about their ordination in the confessional before saying anything else. You do not have to make it seem like you're grilling him, before confessing, simply ask; "Father, because of the way things are these days, can I ask when you were ordained a priest and were you ordained in the new rite or the old rite?
You only want to ask one time, so be sure to be crystal clear, to not leave any room for him to answer you with a question like, "what do you mean?" so you won't be stuck giving a long explanation.
Although it can be a bit awkward sometimes, I learned most priests understand and will readily reply as if they have their answer memorized.
Or you can always ask one of the priests you trust. Consider that he would not want to be letting some invalidly ordained priest take his place, any more than you want to go to a Mass or receive the sacraments from him.