It's like a strong, constant pull to live up to a certain expectation. It's as if your parents and society (everyone you meet) expects you to have a certain trait -- and eventually the pressure becomes too much, and for whatever reason you end up giving it to them! Kind of like when parents continually tell their child he's a loser, he ends up living up to their expectations.
Peer pressure is every bit as powerful as parental pressure -- often times more so! And truth is stranger than fiction.
I've seen this many times. But to cite a current example:
The Democratic candidate for president, Peter Buttigieg, is homosexual.
Isn't it appropriate that a sodomite's last name starts with BUTT? And his first name is "Peter" which is slang for a male organ.
If I had written a novel, and put in a homosexual character named "Peter Buttigieg", critics would have rightfully docked my total score for being "unrealistic" or "amateur". My writing skill would have been maligned. Others would chuckle and say, "I see what you did there. LOL"
But this is reality, so it's not open for debate how "realistic" it is!
I also know of a man named Robert A. Mann ("Rob A. Mann") who wrote in to TAN Books & Publishers under the free books for prisoners apostolate. I don't know if he was in prison for robbery or not...
This is not the first time I've seen something like this. It's strange, because people can't choose their first OR last name. But often times one's name haunts and guides an individual into a certain line of work, personality trait, etc.
Psychologists say that there is nothing sweeter to one's ears than the sound of one's own name. I'm sure people with the last name Clinton, or the first name Hillary, are going to be more disposed, on average, towards Hillary Clinton than the average person who doesn't share one of her names.
Obviously we all have free will, and can consciously override ANY innate psychological pull or tendency. But we're talking about psychological pulls and tendencies here. They are very real, and if not overridden by an act of our Free Will, do indeed nudge us in a certain direction. Just like our temperament, upbringing, ethnic background, etc.
P.S. If my last name were Gaye, Faggott, Butt, Dung, Hitler, Worm, Weak, or any other one-word English noun that would cause my sons trouble if I sent them to public school, I would change my last name for the love of my family. Who deserves to be stuck with a horrible family name like that? I don't know how such surnames got created or assigned in the first place, but if it were me, I'd have it changed to ANYTHING else. I wouldn't put up with such a raw deal for myself, much less my family and progeny!
A fortiori I would refrain from giving my children horrible first names, or the worst possible first name to go with my last name. You don't want your child's full name to sound like a Bart Simpson prank on Moe the bartender. For example, if my last name were Butt, I could at least "grow up" and refrain from naming my son Richard. But some people do the exact opposite and go right for the forbidden fruit, i.e. the one first name they should avoid: Hugh Jass, Crystal Paine, Richard Dick, Harold Dick, Donald Duck, Rob A. Mann, Phil A. Buster, Willie Dixon, Royal Jewel, Gunnar Gunn, Duke Wellington, Connor O'Connor, Penny Doller, etc. Something that would be good for a thirty second chuckle when you're 12, but affects a human being for life!
The phrase, "What were they smoking?" comes to mind.
There are many other last names which invite abuse: Hard, Head, Foote, and any other surname which is basically an English noun. Some are more problematic than others. When you factor in the modern penchant for giving surname-esque first names, it gets even more interesting: Hunter Butt, Hunter Dung, Reagan Busch, etc. Some first names really invite abuse, such as Clay, Rob, Dick, etc.