God hasn't revealed my calling yet, but that doesn't necessarily bother me. As for an example of a good marriage, I have no clue because everyone I have known growing up who is married has constant issues with their marriage. So I'm afraid to get married within the SSPX knowing that.. :/

So are you saying your parents did not give a good example?

Well if you know any men like that, who also doesnt believe in BOD or Bergolio, let me know. And when I mean work out, I literally just mean healthy, which for some reason, its super hard to find.

Because over 50% of adults are overweight in western countries. In Australia that number is 70%.

So are you saying your parents did not give a good example?

I am talking about the way my generation is, not my parent's generation. Things were different back then. Marriage isn't sunshine and rainbows constantly, it's not about trying to seek perfection but trying to minimize the risk of issues that could happen somewhere down the line, and that's what my parents taught me.

When I meant college I didn't mean gender studies, I meant real jobs that require a degree. I agree that college is a scam 90% of the time, but what I was trying to say is that I just want me and my future potential husband to be ready for the future. I don't know about other women, but for myself, I just hate the thought of my kids struggling financially.

The brainwashing is not just in gender studies, but permeates all subjects and the atmosphere. I don’t believe that it will prepare a woman for marriage, which seems to be what you are contemplating.

Regarding your hating the thought of your prospective kids struggling financially, there are many people who think like you.

I am of the opposite opinion.

My three children all worked in menial jobs while still in homeschooling, all three did a crash course in a trade of their interest while still homeschooling, all three had to move far from home at 17 to pursue their living. They always had to contribute to household work and expenses while they were still at home. 

All three are happy, mature and balanced, all happy in the vocation they chose of the own volition. 

Today, many people are damagingly protective of their children. They need to struggle in order to grow in understanding of life in this valley of tears.

The brainwashing is not just in gender studies, but permeates all subjects and the atmosphere. I don’t believe that it will prepare a woman for marriage, which seems to be what you are contemplating.

Regarding your hating the thought of your prospective kids struggling financially, there are many people who think like you.

I am of the opposite opinion.

My three children all worked in menial jobs while still in homeschooling, all three did a crash course in a trade of their interest while still homeschooling, all three had to move far from home at 17 to pursue their living. They always had to contribute to household work and expenses while they were still at home.

All three are happy, mature and balanced, all happy in the vocation they chose of the own volition.

Today, many people are damagingly protective of their children. They need to struggle in order to grow in understanding of life in this valley of tears.

^^^^ what she said. CULTIVATION OF VIRTUE

Can you define what you mean by 'fit'?

What did Jesus do?
What did Blessed Mary do?
None of Them were fat nor were they even slightly overweight. Both of them were lean and healthy and able to perform the physical rigors of daily life. Be like Jesus and Blessed Mary.

Every healthy person is fit but not every fit person is healthy.

Again, I've seen too many marriages where people end up super unhappy NOT EVEN a year later, so that's why I'm completely turned off by it. And I think it's pretty rational to want a guy with financial security.

The two necessities for marriage:
1) The potential spouse must help the other get to Heaven
2) The potential spouse must love the other

Everything else is added assurance and insurance (for the holy union of man and woman not to be scarred by "divorce", separation, infighting, etc.

Indeed, financial security is very important, and I understand why women want/need it (in a temporal sense but still not required by God) for them to get married.

If I want to get married I want a guy with a job, a house, and financial security, is that too much to ask? I’m not asking for millions, I’m asking for a home that we can stay in forever, money for our kids to feed them and to go to college and pursue what God wanted for them. NONE of the guys at my parish are interested or even have the care to work out or be fit.

1-) Job: sure, the husband should have a job.

2-) House: maybe in the US things are different, but in southern European countries and Latin America, none of my catholic friends owned a house at the time they married. They can make ends meet, are hardworking, etc. But if owning a house were a requirement for marriage, many (not to say most) would marry when their fertile days were over.

3-) Financial security: what is that supposed to mean? Being able to make ends meet or accuмulate assets? I mean, are we to work hard and trust providence, or accuмulate wealth? From where I come, financial security is the #1 reason why pagans delay marriage.

4-) Work out and be fit: fair enough, but bear in mind that for many young men going to the gym is not an option to seriously consider. If they work out moderately at home or parks, they'll be fine. But don't expect a "jacked" appearance.