It’s not just traditional Catholicism, there is poor marriage preparation everywhere. 

Much marriage preparation information should have started years ago instead of waiting to get engaged.

Budgeting, meal planning, money management, housecleaning,  cooking, manners, marriage preparation starts in the home and home economics in school. 

  The novus Ordo had sex Ed long before the public schools.  Catholics went along with perversion and communism.  

I think it’s great that a priest encourages boys to court girls instead of other boys.  Also, it’s good to advise a boy to get a job before going out with a girl. 

Everything starts at Home with God, father, mother, and children.  Grand parents, aunt, uncles, God parents are to direct family members toward Jesus Christ too.  Too many children are spoiled and seek pleasure only because older family members seek pleasures.  They choose pleasure over God.  When a child grows up the grand parent is afraid to correct a child because they are afraid of offending parents or grandchild instead of choosing God.

But again -- I was motivated, and wanted to learn. I would never have time for that kind of project now, with the size of my family and land. Too many responsibilities. But as a single or newlywed -- yeah! Men need to be willing to take risks and tackle huge challenges and projects.

Yeah, I've tried a half dozen different business endeavors over the years, and they've all failed ... and I'm currently working on one now that I'm somewhat hopeful about.  Mostly they go nowhere due to the lack of funding to get the word out (advertising / marketing), and they were solid apps / business ideas.  I have 2 that there's still nothing like out there yet and have promise that I might resurrect at some point.  I got close on one, was talking to the Cleveland Clinic about it, but had a guy I partnered with who was supposed to handle the sales, and he just did nothing to get the thing moving.  I had another one that a restaurant agreed to start using, but they were busy with other stuff (remodeling), and so they never go around to properly piloting it.  I have a new software package I'm working on that could bring huge value to business, and I have a different strategy this time to get the word out.  So I'm hopeful about this one, but then I was hopeful about some of the others as well.

Your online Warcraft sounds awesome and was way ahead of its time.  Too bad I can't try it out.  Again, you ran into the same issue ... lack of the means and resources to get the word out.  I'm reluctant to seek venture capital, because those Jєωvestors will take most of the profit for all of your hard work, cashing in while you get a pittance for it all.

Yeah, I've tried a half dozen different business endeavors over the years, and they've all failed ... and I'm currently working on one now that I'm somewhat hopeful about.  Mostly they go nowhere due to the lack of funding to get the word out (advertising / marketing), and they were solid apps / business ideas.  I have 2 that there's still nothing like out there yet and have promise that I might resurrect at some point.  I got close on one, was talking to the Cleveland Clinic about it, but had a guy I partnered with who was supposed to handle the sales, and he just did nothing to get the thing moving.  I had another one that a restaurant agreed to start using, but they were busy with other stuff (remodeling), and so they never go around to properly piloting it.  I have a new software package I'm working on that could bring huge value to business, and I have a different strategy this time to get the word out.  So I'm hopeful about this one, but then I was hopeful about some of the others as well.

Your online Warcraft sounds awesome and was way ahead of its time.  Too bad I can't try it out.  Again, you ran into the same issue ... lack of the means and resources to get the word out.  I'm reluctant to seek venture capital, because those Jєωvestors will take most of the profit for all of your hard work, cashing in while you get a pittance for it all.

Are you currently seeking investors?  I might be interested in your app.  You can DM if you want.

Longtime attendee at large SSPX chapel here. I’ve touched on my personal experiences in other threads but man, I could fill a book with all the disastrous and broken marriage situations I’ve seen.

We have one priest whose essentially entire job here at the chapel is to fix and deal with marriage issues. I know:

multiple men whose wives left them within the first year of marriage.

Numerous cases of infidelity.

Countless cases of premarital pregnancies (so much so that we now have a rule requiring any bride marrying while pregnant to wear a red shawl on top of her white dress)

Spousal abuse

I could go on and on and on. And these are all 40+ year traditional Catholics. 

I also know of many young men who were told to (or allowed to) simply drop out of high school with a barely grade 10 education. Now, some of them are basically illegible for marriage as the only jobs they can get are manual labour. I know some who clean up after cows on a farm now and can’t even read properly. Many of the kids have been expelled from boarding schools for drugs, sex, etc. all around a terrible situation. 

Interesting that you call it out as the wives leaving their husbands.  EVERY single case of "separation" / abandonment I've seen was the wife leaving the huband and not the other way around, with the husband being upset that she left ... and none of the situations I know of entailed any kind of scenario that might justify separation (i.e. abuse, infidelity on the part of the husband, etc.).  Every time it's just the woman was unsatisfied / unhappy / unfulfilled, for whateverr reason, and just decided to split, leaving the husband broken-hearted, and often raising the children by himself, and the woman often didn't even look back or seek even partial custody.

To be fair, I generally try not to pry into the particulars of who left for what reason. I just know that I’ve seen banns of marriage published, even attendee multiple weddings, and then some months or a heat later, I find out in hushed tones that so-and-so has moved back in to his family’s home with his with presumably having run off somewhere else.

And yeah, in some cases the husband is left holding the bag and rearing the children.

clearly there’s some deep issue here within the culture of the community. The priests, to their credit, do try their Best But they can’t be everywhere all at once, they’re travelling and doing mass circuits and most importantly can only fix or address what gets brought to their attention. That being said I think for a long time there was a feeling by the priests that, if two longtime traditional Catholic young people were coming to them engaged, minimal marriage preparation was required because the young people would be responsible and well formed and know what they’re getting into.

heck, my own marriage prep years ago was simply a traditional priest making us read Castii Conubii and then ask my if I was physically capable of the marital act. 

clearly the marriage prep needs to be SERIOUSLY beefed up. 

The priests in most cases are still putting the woman on the pedestal. Trad or not. You think they are having the counseling meetings with the woman holding most the "blame" for marriage problems? Maybe 1/10. This is how it's for the past 40 or so years. I say this over and over, we keep worshiping women today as if they can do no wrong. We are all poisoned by the world today, no matter how much of a bunker busting homesteading, traditional family, rod and staff larper you project to be.

I believe this is partly due to a warped "chivalric" instinct that men have towards women, where they're inclined to hold them in esteem, assumed right unless proven wrong, pure, blameless, and, if anything goes wrong in the relationship, always the victim and never the perp.  It's why female mass murderers get off the hook with just probation and psychological treatment, with the belief that something must have made them do it, whereas men would get death row for the same crimes.  In the situations I saw, the men were not blameless or faultless, in the sense that they lived as perfect husbands and fathers, but they didn't actively do anything that would warrant the separation.  They worked, made plenty of money to support the wife and kids, with the wives often spending accordingly on themselves, did not abuse the wife or children either physically or verbally, but they were deemed "inadequate" by their wives somehow, not sufficient for the Prince Charming that every girl who is inherentiy a "Disney Princess" deserves and is entitled to.  Even the homeliest woman these days feels entitled to a guy that looks like Brad Pitt, has the physique of an Arnold Schwarzenegger, and the wallet of a Bill Gates ... who would then put her up on a pedestal and worship her.  They feel that unless they get that, i.e. what they consider themselves entitled to ... it's "beneath" them and insulting to them.  There are hugely overweight, homely, low-IQ, jobless women out on social media ludicrously laying down their demands for a husband tht they feel entitled to.  I think of it as "Disney Princess" cultural conditioning, where the women consider that they're all really Princesses and deserve the best ... having to pay no attention to their own shortcomings and unworthiness.  In one case very close to me, a blood relative, the poor man worked for the Secret Service (some of you might be able to figure out who this is), the kindest, most gentle man you'd ever meet, had a good job, made good money, etc., was attentive to his wife and children.  You know what turned the wife against him?  Well, at some point, they were shutting down the Secret Service office near us and his only option was to move to DC area or else find another job.  So he went to work for another government agency so he didn't have to move ... since he (and she) had their immediate family and many relatives in this area..  This got the woman enraged at him because ... she loved the fact that she could brag about being married to a Secret Service agent, believing this made her into an extremely important person, and she was fantasizing about going to DC and hob-knobbing with Senators, Congressmen, and perhaps even the White House staff.  She began a campaign of persecution and terror against him that I won't go into the details of, since it was incredibly cruel.  This wrecked the poor guy, to the point that his immune system crashed, and he ended up dying of cancer at a relatively young age.  Of course, because she had divorced him and the government life insurance policies were such that they strictly ruled out any claim by ex-spouses on the payout, she didn't get a penny, and now that he had died, she also didn't get any alimony or child support.  Both were Traditional Catholics.  He remained such til he died with the Sacraments, whereas she abandoned Catholicism entirely, having used the fact that he attended and made the family attend a "cult" at the Traditional chapel we've all gone to for decades, as ammunition against him during the divorce.

To be fair, I generally try not to pry into the particulars of who left for what reason. I just know that I’ve seen banns of marriage published, even attendee multiple weddings, and then some months or a heat later, I find out in hushed tones that so-and-so has moved back in to his family’s home with his with presumably having run off somewhere else.

And yeah, in some cases the husband is left holding the bag and rearing the children.

clearly there’s some deep issue here within the culture of the community. The priests, to their credit, do try their Best But they can’t be everywhere all at once, they’re travelling and doing mass circuits and most importantly can only fix or address what gets brought to their attention. That being said I think for a long time there was a feeling by the priests that, if two longtime traditional Catholic young people were coming to them engaged, minimal marriage preparation was required because the young people would be responsible and well formed and know what they’re getting into.

heck, my own marriage prep years ago was simply a traditional priest making us read Castii Conubii and then ask my if I was physically capable of the marital act.

clearly the marriage prep needs to be SERIOUSLY beefed up.

Could it be what the OP is saying:  people are being pressured and getting married too soon/to the wrong person?