You say the phrase
"she or he"
Not even the already feminist influenced "he or she", but "she or he" to show that you're keeping things COMPLETELY equal -- we can't have the "he" first, now can we?
Anyhow, this is one of the most annoying things a person can say.
An alternate phrase is to say "they" to make "he" into some kind of neutral. But in the process, it changes a singular into a plural.
I think I'll show them by leaving off the "she" altogether.