My entire extended family is novus ordo. Some of them, you just can't talk to. Others you do talk to, end up talking to the novus ordo part of the family, and get re-brainwashed. It's totally counterproductive.
To say that they "can't help it," ain't necessarily so.
Some of these people are so comfortable with their "special" layperson duties that they've been given. It's almost like a police officer with a new shiny badge, that is on a power trip. You can't talk to most of them.
I was novus ordo until I was 14. Fortunately I was caught early enough (and JUST IN TIME) before I was completely brainwashed and would have lost my faith.
Our extended family ostracized us because they claimed we "weren't Catholic." My grandmother was the primary culprit. Her little matriarchy lead to the ruin of the rest of the family, and their complete unwillingness to listen to the truth.
We still don't have a relationship with them, although, I have tried to talk to some of my cousins (of which I have 88, last time I counted, probably more) but they're so brainwashed most of the time, they dismiss you as a loon.
I would say it wouldn't be the "fault" of the younger people, but for the OLDER people that experienced what it was to be a Catholic before the changes, to outright dismiss and reject those that cling to the faith as "schismatics" and whatever lame label they want to place on "traditionalists" leads people to believe they totally reject the faith with their own free will, and choose the erroneous path of the newchurch.
You're onto something here, PFT.
When you meet a "Novus Ordo Catholic" who hates/rejects/despises Tradition, you really have someone who rejects the FAITH (there's no "Traditional Catholic", strictly speaking -- just Catholic) and chooses man -- fellowship, approval, respect, honors, pleasures -- rather than God.
When someone talks about how "hard" our Traditional Catholicism sounds -- that's one of the bad signs. It means they suspect it's true, but won't embrace it because they have inordinate attachments.
In this sense, the Novus Ordo IS a competing, false religion.This illustrates just how severe the Crisis in the Church is; the Novus Ordo religion is probably one of the worst false religions there is! Here is why: No other has the name "Catholic", which serves as a shield for the bad-willed to defend themselves against their own conscience, even when they know something is wrong.
The problem is, you can't write off ALL Novus Ordo Catholics as being in this category. That is a simplistic mistake that many, unfortunately, make.
Speaking about "conversion" of N.O. Catholics is a tricky subject. On the one hand, they DO need conversion in a way, to see if they will choose God or man when faced with the choice. But, nevertheless, some can be deluded by their priest, the Catholic name they bear, etc. and be genuinely convinced that traditionalists are too extreme.
That's why, in the end, only God can judge.
Matthew