Author Topic: how do you raise you children in the faith in a fragmented family (Read 5056 times)

Belloc · « **Reply #15 on:** September 25, 2009, 11:45:37 AM »

Quote from: alemany

This last weekend I went out for a visit, the irony is the children are so well behaved.And my X attibutes it to my formation of them! to this day she give's me all the credit of being a great father?

Now she has breast cancer and is going threw that,I must be as positive as I can to her situation.

Try to pray for her, hard as it may be and offer support, may bring her around and lead to conversion.....perhaps cancer is meant to do this.....

alemany · « **Reply #16 on:** September 26, 2009, 09:17:07 AM »

I'm going to do what I can to be positive,since she has remarried in the civil courts........i can only do what can to roll with this fragmented situation. he is really a nut case,she told me she wanted to have another baby?!with her new husband??????? the cancer put a stop to that.

alemany · « **Reply #17 on:** October 02, 2009, 10:06:25 AM »

I've been gathering information,and it's not as bleak :detective:as i have learned that do to a flawed formation and her being pregnant 6 months when we were married,canon 1095.2,3.

that there are reasons that show cause for an annulment,i recieved the paper work from the tribunal,there are many valid reasons that this marriage was flawed.

Elizabeth · « **Reply #18 on:** October 02, 2009, 11:36:53 AM »

Good luck, and remember the Five First Saturdays and the daily Rosary to get you through this. Your children need you to be a good father.

alemany · « **Reply #19 on:** October 02, 2009, 11:52:42 AM »

I am for some reason a good father, even in this chaos I am devoted to my children.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #20 on:** October 02, 2009, 12:01:31 PM »

Quote from: alemany

I've been gathering information,and it's not as bleak :detective:as i have learned that do to a flawed formation and her being pregnant 6 months when we were married,canon 1095.2,3.

that there are reasons that show cause for an annulment,i recieved the paper work from the tribunal,there are many valid reasons that this marriage was flawed.

Alemany, realize that an annulment is just a declaration that something is so - it cannot dissolve a valid marriage.

In all likelihood your wife and you fully intended the sacrament and their was no true impediment to marriage.

If the fact that the bride is pregnant could justify an annulment, there would be countless marriages that could suddenly be called "invalid" if they don't work out. Surely that can't be in accord with Catholic doctrine.

Catholic Samurai · « **Reply #21 on:** October 02, 2009, 04:11:44 PM »

I dont see how she being pregnant at the time of yall's wedding is a cause for annulment. Most of the time that procures an obligation to get married!

Catholic Samurai · « **Reply #22 on:** October 02, 2009, 04:25:26 PM »

I'll keep you in my prayers Alemany. Next time you see your kids, give each of them a green and a brown scapular. Make sure they wear them. You can get them the Young Men's Guide and the Young Girls Guide by Fr.Lasance. If your physical contact with them is limited then the best way to reach them is by books and sacramentals. Spiritual reading is essential to ones spiritual life. Does she still take the children to Mass?

alemany · « **Reply #23 on:** October 05, 2009, 01:22:54 PM »

No she doesn't take the children to mass, the last time the children were at a church was during my last visitation. We lit candles for my mother, hopefully when I get out there I can be more of an influence on them. The mothers cafeteria Catholic mentality, is typical for the nervous order! The only thing I can do is work on my own soul at this point in time. And even when I get out closer to the children that still has to be my priority number one is my soul first! First I have to navigate the crisis of faith that I'm experiencing now!

stevusmagnus · « **Reply #24 on:** October 07, 2009, 01:53:58 AM »

alemany,

What a tragedy! Will pray for you, her and the kids.