It's silly to make assumptions. Everyone's situation is different.I worked several jobs to pay my way through college, not to "find a man" but to escape an extremely abusive family. We both wanted me to stay home and I did not work after marriage until my laid-off husband asked me to because we were unable to pay our bills and our meals were meager. He was happy to have me work until he was able to work again. And I was happy to be home again.