Author Topic: Women regretting college (Read 616 times)

AMDGJMJ · « **Reply #15 on:** **Today** at 05:41:58 AM »

Quote from: jen51 on Yesterday at 07:44:12 PM

A lot of secular parents only advise their kids to go to college, not to think critically about it.

THIS ^^^

My parents pushed myself and my siblings all to go to college because it is the norm.

I was the 1st of their children to decide not to go and my youngest brother also didn't go to college. (I am the 5th out of 7.) My oldest sister never took to college and in fact I think it destroyed the good that was left in her... I saw many other women go to college and have the same thing happen to them and so I preferred to study more in the lines of "vocational school" being a governess at 18 years, an accountant for 5 years for a farm, teaching music lessons, and doing other small jobs until I got married.

My 2 brothers who went to college didn't use their degrees for their jobs until years later one of my brothers got his Masters Degree and is now one of the teachers for MODG (Mother of Divine Grace). My sisters who went to college hardly used their degrees except one sister who got a music degree and sings for pay at an indult church. My brother who didn't go to college is a realtor and loves his job.

I think that the big thing about going to college is having a firm plan. I know that back in the day missionary nuns were sometimes sent to college to learn languages and study things to help them with their missions they were going to undertake. I have known women who went to college to become nurses and kept their modesty and decency intact. (My godmother actually went to nursing school with my mother and I think that she is part of the reason why I became a traditional Catholic and not my siblings.)

Gray2023 · « **Reply #16 on:** **Today** at 05:56:32 AM »

This is an interesting topic.

I for one also agree that women going to college gives the wrong impression of what a woman should do.

In my case I was secular going to college with a belief in God but no real religion I belonged to. I was a fallen away from the Novus Ordo Catholic, who decided to give Methodism a try. I was intelligent, so it was just assumed I would go to a four year college. First engineering, but the way women had to prove themselves was awful, so I changed to sociology. My parents paid for school, so there was no skin off my nose. The only good part about college is meeting my husband, who eventually lead us to true Catholicism.

What I think is more beneficial for daughters is teaching them to have a sacrificial helpful nature. The women who have young families could always use the help of a teenager or young women, when she has had a new baby. With my last two children I had 2 different young women help. They are both married, with children of their own. I also think it would be good for young women to be companions for older women. Currently I have a 14 year old girl who visits me on occasion and it is so fun to have her around because she is so naturally helpful, very different from sons.

I really do not understand why we don't network for this more often.

Many young mothers with more than three small children would love the help, but might feel like they shouldn't ask for help or they are failures because they have to ask for help. How do we change this stigma?

Side note, keeping a women's mind sharp is easy with all the resources at our fingertips.

TomGubbinsKimmage · « **Reply #17 on:** **Today** at 06:03:55 AM »

The issue is always about goals/ends/

Even if a nun goes to college (and that is to be questioned for another day), in that circuмstance the goal is more like that of a man, in that it serves what she is doing.

Whenever someone tries to tell me the same applies to women with married vocations, I laugh. Really? a degree in biology to teach just that one subject to her 15 year olds? When they might not be even interested in it? Are you kidding me?

It's clear therefore that it's just not a serious argument. And it is just part of the same old feminist equality ideology. Which is of women doing what the men are doing, and being jealous they dont get to. They are jealous because feminism has run down the glory of mother hood and the joy it instills in all women today SO MUCH, that even trad women don't get excited thinking about it. Their minds just go to whatever they "learn", what subjects they are good at. Sweetie, ain't nobody including Our Lord at your judgment, are going to be interested in how good your French or Biology was.

Jealousy is, as the catechism teaches, a form of sadness. It is, like all sins irrational. But since women are emotional creatures (we all are ultimately of course), they need to be shown more and more of how beautiful, glorious and noble motherhood is. We all need to start talking about this more and more to inspire young women to want it. We need that positive re-enforcement along with the disgust of the opposite.

Disgust of ALL THINGS opposing it, including sending women off to colleges isolated from home environments, from the men who love them, to get educated "Just in case". What does that even mean anyway? Making our decisions based on "What if" scenarios, is just not healthy. Should a man get multiple degrees or trades "in case" he can't find jobs in one? Of course not. He waits until providence starts telling him that, but in the meantime he sticks to one because that is where God lead him.

So too for a woman, it is not until she hits 25-30,and she realizes prince charming ain't coming, and and then she can start to make provision for living either alone or with her sisters/friends. Ideally moving out of her fathers house so she is not such a burden.

AMDGJMJ · « **Reply #18 on:** **Today** at 06:04:33 AM »

Quote from: Gray2023 on Today at 05:56:32 AM

This is an interesting topic.

I for one also agree that women going to college gives the wrong impression of what a woman should do.

In my case I was secular going to college with a belief in God but no real religion I belonged to. I was a fallen away from the Novus Ordo Catholic, who decided to give Methodism a try. I was intelligent, so it was just assumed I would go to a four year college. First engineering, but the way women had to prove themselves was awful, so I changed to sociology. My parents paid for school, so there was no skin off my nose. The only good part about college is meeting my husband, who eventually lead us to true Catholicism.

What I think is more beneficial for daughters is teaching them to have a sacrificial helpful nature. The women who have young families could always use the help of a teenager or young women, when she has had a new baby. With my last two children I had 2 different young women help. They are both married, with children of their own. I also think it would be good for young women to be companions for older women. Currently I have a 14 year old girl who visits me on occasion and it is so fun to have her around because she is so naturally helpful, very different from sons.

I really do not understand why we don't network for this more often.

Many young mothers with more than three small children would love the help, but might feel like they shouldn't ask for help or they are failures because they have to ask for help. How do we change this stigma?

Side note, keeping a women's mind sharp is easy with all the resources at our fingertips.

Well said!

TomGubbinsKimmage · « **Reply #19 on:** **Today** at 06:05:54 AM »

Quote from: Gray2023 on Today at 05:56:32 AM

What I think is more beneficial for daughters is teaching them to have a sacrificial helpful nature.

Bingo. Bravo Gray, you hit the nail on the head.

Bishop Williamson said the exact same thing.

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