Author Topic: Women going to college? (Read 44487 times)

ServusSpiritusSancti · « **on:** April 22, 2012, 03:30:50 PM »

It appears that some people on the "18 year old daughter wants to be a marine or cop" thread disagreed with my statement that women who intend to marry shouldn't go to college. I think this topic deserves its own thread.

My argument is that, if married women are supposed to stay home while their husbands bring home the money, why waste time going to college?

What do others here say?

Clelia · « **Reply #1 on:** April 22, 2012, 03:52:16 PM »

I say 2 things:

1. Men and women can easily loose theirs souls by going to college. Unfortunately, if one has an aspiration to learn a vocation or skill to benefit humanity and earn an income from a worthy endeavor, they have the right to do so. However, one must be a very STRONG CATHOLIC to weather, navigate through the garbage of teachers and the deviate lifestyles of students, to be able to evangelize and learn that skill at the same time. VERY difficult.

2. If one is hoping to mary, one still cannot 'sit around' and either wait for romeo or pick someone just to hurry up and fulfill that desire. One must keep busy and not chance either having no income from worthy employment obtained either through appropriate training or legitimate opportunity otherwise, while there is a possibility that one may never marry.

I know moms who are SAH home school moms who left their careers. If anything ever happens that they MUST return to work, they MUST, unless they have lots of family and friends to help.

Life goes on. However, careers of selfishness for selfish reasons are not good for married women or single women.

We do the best we can. Yet, an educated mom (maintaining her Faith and strong to avoid sin) can be a great teacher and provider, when called upon out of necessity.

Spork · « **Reply #2 on:** April 22, 2012, 06:34:57 PM »

I think college is a waste for most, male or female. Don't get me wrong: engineering, medicine, natural sciences, accounting, computer science, Thomistic philosophy, etc. are all worthy endeavors and need advanced learning, for which a university/college is needed. But most majors and degrees are utterly worthless. I have close to a 150,000 dollar hole to pay off. Granted, I have a great career, but I could see myself just as happy working on a leaky pipe, repairing a printer, or managing a restaurant for the same income(OK, maybe a little less, but the difference in loan payment cancels this out).

So, should a girl go to college, rack up tens of thousands in student loans, get a worthless degree in 'management' or sociology? I don't believe so. But if a young woman has a calling to a religious vocation and wants to become a nurse to care for fellow religious, that is something entirely different.

I have to say that a young woman should not go to college but learn to raise children and care for a household. Good planning(savings, disability insurance, family, community, and life insurance) will take the place of a trade skill or 'degree' if something tragic should happen to the breadwinner. Sounds easier said than done, but God is most pleased with many happy children with mom at home. He will provide.

lefebvre_fan · « **Reply #3 on:** April 22, 2012, 07:43:55 PM »

Well, I had a girl break up with me once essentially because she was too busy with her studies and hence didn't have time for a relationship. Not that I would expect her, or any woman, to drop everything all of a sudden for my sake, hardly. Still, it's food for thought.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #4 on:** April 22, 2012, 08:28:27 PM »

Quote from: SpiritusSanctus

It appears that some people on the "18 year old daughter wants to be a marine or cop" thread disagreed with my statement that women who intend to marry shouldn't go to college. I think this topic deserves its own thread.

You didn't even say "shouldn't go" - you said, didn't need to go. Apparently certain feminist thinking individuals believe that Catholic girls need to go to college.

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My argument is that, if married women are supposed to stay home while their husbands bring home the money, why waste time going to college?

What do others here say?

Yes, wasting time and money. It's about the feminist belief that a young woman who hasn't gone to college and submits to her husband is somehow being cheated.

You're dealing with people who it's far more important for a girl to be educated and have more power in marriage, and to have some "fun" finding herself, than to be a virgin at her wedding.