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By the way I thought this comment in Haydock was rather bizarre:

http://www.veritasbible.com/drb/compare/haydock/Deuteronomy_22:21

Messages like hers need to be opposed, since they justify sin under the guise of ‘gaining experience’ and other pop psych canards like ‘learning to love myself’. The take-home message is, ‘If I hadn’t slept around for a decade, I wouldn’t have had the knowledge to find and recognize my perfect man.’ Well, it’s obvious to me that the reality of this story is very different.

This distinction, logic over emotion, is the biggest difference between women dating during their twenties and women dating in their thirties.  The ability to look past the passion and limerence in order to consider and weigh the reality and lifetime needs.

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Finally, I remained open to any man who expresses an interest.  If he had the courage to ask me out, unless he was out of line I always gave him at least two dates.

Here is my read-between-the-lines summary. The author is saying that after a thoughtless single life in her 20s, she got desperate and learned to settle for a man who doesn’t excite her, since any man who does excite her (like the Rebel) has too many options for an almost middle-aged woman like her to keep his attention for long. And that is what typically happens to women who stay unmarried into their 30s. Perhaps in this case it really did work out for the best and she will be happy, but it is objectionable for her to be spreading these lying and scandalous notions under the deceptive guise of a ‘message of hope’, and a Christian one no less.

What irritates me about this is her inability to be honest. It’s embarrassing the way she spins facts to protect her ego, e.g., “if he had the courage to ask me out”. What she means is she would date anyone who looked at her twice. The implication that the Rebel wants to marry her, and thus that she really does have a choice between the two, is transparently pure fiction, but she must make it appear that she has interesting options or her thesis falls apart.

So this is the social reality that American women have helped to create for themselves. A world where the men who interest them have no good reason to stick around, since thanks to women now spending their twenties leaping from bed to bed there are always younger and hotter women to be had, and of course marriage reduced to a civil arrangement has become an empty scam.