What woman wouldn't want to submit to a husband who loves her as Christ loves the Church?
I discovered traditional Catholicism quite late in my life, so I did not know anything about Catholic teaching on the wife's obedience in the early years of my marriage. I just knew about Novus Ordo teaching on "mutual submission of husband and wife". I also had a childhood non-Catholic formation involving feminism.
Even in my situation of complete ignorance of traditional teaching and a personal tendency toward rebellion, I was able to figure out that I ought to obey my husband. It just became more and more clear that he deserved to be obeyed. I could see that things went better when I followed his lead and that he was simply wiser than me.
That is how powerful it is when a man loves his wife as Christ loved the Church.