Gregg is just giving Gooch a hard time now and confusing him.  

I don't have experience of this topic BUT this entire conversation is proof that devout Catholics ought only to marry other devout Catholics, otherwise the inevietable problems happen, especially with one side trying to maintain their Catholic identity regarding conjugical relations, something Catholics are very strict on for our own good. The modern world corrupts people with the notions of his wife, just shows that faith needs to be rock solid in both. If she would not convert I would not bother with her if that was me.

Was her intention the same on your wedding day?

found this, although I don't put too much stock in it
http://churchmilitant.tumblr.com/sexquestions

4 - Are both spouses guilty of a mortal sin if one chooses to use a contraceptive against the others will?

No. If a man decides to have a vasectomy against his wife’s will, she may still have sex with him and not be guilty. Likewise, if a woman is taking birth control pills against a husband’s wished, he may still have sex with her and remain guilt free.

Pius XI teaches the same thing in Casti Connubii:

"59. Holy Church knows well that not infrequently one of the parties is sinned against rather than sinning, when for a grave cause he or she reluctantly allows the perversion of the right order. In such a case, there is no sin, provided that, mindful of the law of charity, he or she does not neglect to seek to dissuade and to deter the partner from sin."

http://www.vatican.va/holy_father/pius_xi/encyclicals/docuмents/hf_p-xi_enc_31121930_casti-connubii_en.html

Notice an effort to correct the spouse must be made, even if it doesn't succeed. If there is no practical change, keep praying that she has a change of heart. There's nothing more you can do. But there's no obligation to abstain.

 If your conscience still troubles you, talk to a priest for reassurance (don't go near a Novus Ordo priest, and find an absolutely traditional one who teaches that NFP can only be used for a grave reason). He will tell you the same as Pius XI, but it often helps to have a priest's personal assurance that you are doing nothing wrong, and he may pray for your wife as well. Have a Mass said for your intention (that your wife stops using this method).  

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found this, although I don't put too much stock in it
http://churchmilitant.tumblr.com/sexquestions

4 - Are both spouses guilty of a mortal sin if one chooses to use a contraceptive against the others will?

No. If a man decides to have a vasectomy against his wife’s will, she may still have sex with him and not be guilty. Likewise, if a woman is taking birth control pills against a husband’s wished, he may still have sex with her and remain guilt free.

Pius XI teaches the same thing in Casti Connubii:

"59. Holy Church knows well that not infrequently one of the parties is sinned against rather than sinning, when for a grave cause he or she reluctantly allows the perversion of the right order. In such a case, there is no sin, provided that, mindful of the law of charity, he or she does not neglect to seek to dissuade and to deter the partner from sin."

http://www.vatican.va/holy_father/pius_xi/encyclicals/docuмents/hf_p-xi_enc_31121930_casti-connubii_en.html

Notice an effort to correct the spouse must be made, even if it doesn't succeed. If there is no practical change, keep praying that she has a change of heart. There's nothing more you can do. But there's no obligation to abstain.

 If your conscience still troubles you, talk to a priest for reassurance (don't go near a Novus Ordo priest, and find an absolutely traditional one who teaches that NFP can only be used for a grave reason). He will tell you the same as Pius XI, but it often helps to have a priest's personal assurance that you are doing nothing wrong, and he may pray for your wife as well. Have a Mass said for your intention (that your wife stops using this method).  

Was the IUD out when Pius XI was pope? Only the pill was, methinks. The pill simply stops ovulation. The IUD murders an embryo (with an immortal soul) that cannot attach to the mother's womb because of the device.

They weren't even widely used until the 1950s because of the problems associated with them, infections, et cetera. No one in their right minds were using them, and certainly no doctor would have given the recommendation to use them at that time.

Some homonal BC pills are abortifacient also.

Hormonal contraception ascribes a three-fold action to these agents.  1. inhibition of ovulation, 2. inhibition of sperm transport, and 3. production of a ‘hostile endometrium’, which prevents or disrupts implantation of the developing baby if the first two mechanisms fail.

I doubt any traditional priest would advise, knowing what an IUD does, to continue having relations with a wife if she's that self loathing of herself to do that.

If the wife continues to use an IUD, the husband may be forced to live separately.  A separation would be for his spiritual welfare.  A wife who is anti-life, or pro-death, is to be shunned.  

It's not permitted to divorce and remarry but separation is perfectly acceptable.  

If this isn't feasible, then the husband should sleep in a separate bedroom and avoid his wife as much as possible.  

I don't want to say that there are times when a man needs to cut his losses because these are issues a man has to work out to his own satisfaction befoer he even asks a lady to marry him.

Capt. Remember, he's a recent convert, so go easy on his choice.

I doubt any traditional priest would advise, knowing what an IUD does, to continue having relations with a wife if she's that self loathing of herself to do that.

I got down voted before, but trust St Paul and the good Bishop on this. The unbeliving wife is sanctified by the believing husband.

Crisis of faith, same thing. His story here is about an atheist who ended up becoming a priest after his wife died, 19:00 mark here: