So, Gooch has a major moral dilemma in his family because he married a girl who is nonchalant and sees herself as the ultimate creator by using birth control. That's where she is morally and it's a state of mortal sin.
Gooch is stuck with this. Gooch has screwed the pooch! In a manner of speaking.
So, what's Gooch to do now?
I say follow the advice I gave earlier. Sanctify himself with prayer, sacrifice, assisting at the Traditional Catholic Mass ONLY and bring his children with him. Sanctify himself and then sanctify the children.
It's a process and it may take months.
Gooch will have to pray the Rosary daily with intentions for his wife and her conversion and for the children that they may embrace fully the Traditional Catholic faith.
Gooch will need to refrain from all immoral practices, giving up all porn, lust, and even limit his intake of TV.
Gooch will need to go to a Traditional Catholic priest for a General Confession. This will take much prayer and meditation on Gooch's part and then he will have to have the courage to go into the confessional and spill the beans entirely.
Gooch will need to be patient with his wife but he will also have to spell it out for her that what she is doing is repulsive from a secular point of view but absolute death of the soul in the supernatural realm. He will have to revisit this conversation several times. If his wife divorces him over this, then she probably possesses a rancid soul.
Gooch should also start to purchase plaster statues of Catholic saints, in particular Our Lady, have them blessed by a priest and then display them in prominent spots in the home. Consecrate the home to the Sacred Heart.
There should be a crucifix in every room (except the bathroom).
Gooch has to take a stand and make a change. Change is good if it's in the direction of embracing the Traditional Catholic faith.
When a guy marries a girl who is openly using birth control, he probably has a lot of problems in addition to the wife. So Gooch will have to single out these problems and conquer them one after the other.
It's even possible that Gooch, by asking for advice on this forum, may not even be the intended beneficiary of this advice. The blessings may be reserved for one of his children or one of his grandchildren.
The blessing may even be for the child his wife gives birth to after she gets rid of that absolutely soul-killing and rancid practice of birth control.
I wish Gooch all the luck in the world and may God bless him.
captain thanks for the advice, Gooch has already done most of the above, not as many crucifix's as I would like though, it's been a 1 year and a half since I conquered all my problems of lust, if she would agree not to have relations for the rest of our lives but be together as a family I would agree in a heartbeat, as it stands now she's not willing to do that, we were married into the fruitless novus order church, I'm paying for it now...but I don't believe divorce will result of this...God only knows