Author Topic: wife rejects natural family planning (Read 31308 times)

ggreg · « **Reply #35 on:** August 01, 2013, 07:58:39 PM »

PM with this if easier

Conspiracy_Factist · « **Reply #36 on:** August 01, 2013, 08:47:52 PM »

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Who wears the trousers? ( be honest as some advice is useless or counterproductive if she is a Cosmopolitan reader.

We know she is culturally pro contraception but is she against divorce? the two don't always go hand in hand. Would divorcing you be a personal failure in her mind? Would her parents think she was stupid for losing you or sympathise with her for following her heart?

she's 40, we have a 8, 6, 1 yr old, she simply wants no more kids, she says she's done, she's exhausted, but she also mentioned other reasons as financial , chance of her getting sick ...as for the trousers I say she doesn't accept my authority, she's a modern woman, she says she has given in to allthe drastic changes I have forced onthe family in recent years..ie my stance agains vaccines..I won the battle, my insistence we eat organic, I won the battle..she says this is the straw that broke the camel's back..as for divorce she mentioned it the other night, then the day after she mentioned she couldn't live without me, I think it's her desperate plea to have me consent to her wishes, we both agree that if she would divorce all our friends and family would side with her as everyone thinks my views on life are extreme

Mabel · « **Reply #37 on:** August 01, 2013, 09:01:39 PM »

Quote from: gooch

Quote from: ggreg

Who wears the trousers? ( be honest as some advice is useless or counterproductive if she is a Cosmopolitan reader.

We know she is culturally pro contraception but is she against divorce? the two don't always go hand in hand. Would divorcing you be a personal failure in her mind? Would her parents think she was stupid for losing you or sympathise with her for following her heart?

she's 40, we have a 8, 6, 1 yr old, she simply wants no more kids, she says she's done, she's exhausted, but she also mentioned other reasons as financial , chance of her getting sick ...as for the trousers I say she doesn't accept my authority, she's a modern woman, she says she has given in to allthe drastic changes I have forced onthe family in recent years..ie my stance agains vaccines..I won the battle, my insistence we eat organic, I won the battle..she says this is the straw that broke the camel's back..as for divorce she mentioned it the other night, then the day after she mentioned she couldn't live without me, I think it's her desperate plea to have me consent to her wishes, we both agree that if she would divorce all our friends and family would side with her as everyone thinks my views on life are extreme

I have a friend who ended up in a similar situation, the wife divorced him, he probably could have written most of what you had written. It started with contraception. If she starts talking divorce, I'm hoping it would never come to that, but sometimes things get better and get worse again. I don't mean to scare you, but really think about how you might have to protect yourself and your children. Consider legal things. When in-laws get involved, they can influence your spouse and it can just spiral out of control. I've seen a traditional Catholic mother and also a father have nearly all parental rights taken away, and I guess I am very sensitive to that word "divorce" being used. Courts do not find favor with us in these situations.

I know this isn't what you asked about, but I really felt I should give you some friendly words of caution. I hope it all works out, and that good St. Joseph will guide you though this.

Lighthouse · « **Reply #38 on:** August 01, 2013, 09:14:40 PM »

Have you thought about a mutual vow of abstinence? Could she live with that?
Could you?

Think about it. That way she is not committing the sin of contraception nor the sin of withholding. She is relieved of the terror of getting into a difficult situation.
How much do you love each other and the children? Or is it all based on puffed
up worldly desires

Conspiracy_Factist · « **Reply #39 on:** August 01, 2013, 09:36:18 PM »

Quote from: Lighthouse

Have you thought about a mutual vow of abstinence? Could she live with that?
Could you?

Think about it. That way she is not committing the sin of contraception nor the sin of withholding. She is relieved of the terror of getting into a difficult situation.
How much do you love each other and the children? Or is it all based on puffed
up worldly desires

I can live with it, she can't ..it's all based on puffed up worldly desires unfortunately.