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Traditional Catholic Faith => Catholic Living in the Modern World => Topic started by: sedevacantist3 on May 08, 2023, 06:12:42 PM
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Family in turmoil, anyone here who has experience with this pls let me know, wife not happy, 3 kids, 2 teenage girls not handling it well,
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As the Father & Husband, you have the duty to step forward and defend the Baby's life.
Find a Pro-life Catholic or Christian Obstetrician who understands the late pregnancy risks and will help you manage a safe pregnancy.
Nowadays, there's medical techniques to help insure a safer, late pregnancy delivery.
There will be a lot of pro-abort sentiment thrown at you, but stand firm.
Think of St. Anne delivering the chosen Mother Of God, Mary. She was 46 at the time of her Holy pregnancy.
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I have heard of a lady who was in her 50’s having had a baby in a neighboring chapel and this family is well known in the chapel I attend. I don’t know this woman well (only was acquainted with her once) but she seems very holy. God must have a lot of confidence in your dear wife. I know that may not make it any easier for her, but these things do not happen unless God wills them. How far along is your wife in her pregnancy? She and this little miracle baby will need many prayers for a successful pregnancy, as the rate of miscarriage increases with age.
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It’s understandable that your family is surprised. Please have a talk with your other children. Your wife needs their and your support. Time to try to put away any negative feelings (or at least shield them from her). She needs 100% all in support, as in, ‘we are so happy for this blessing and will be there for you in whatever way you need.’ Your wife is carrying enough emotionally on her own already. May God Bless you and your family.
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Family in turmoil, anyone here who has experience with this pls let me know, wife not happy, 3 kids, 2 teenage girls not handling it well,
God has decided you are to have another child. His will be done.
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My wife had our 12th at age 45 and our oldest was 26 with 3 of her own. We have grandchildren who will straw-buy alcohol for their aunt. :laugh1:
Only grace will get you through. Providence saw fit to bless you with another child and Providence will equip you for the work ahead.
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My wife had our 12th at age 45 and our oldest was 26 with 3 of her own. We have grandchildren who will straw-buy alcohol for their aunt. :laugh1:
Only grace will get you through. Providence saw fit to bless you with another child and Providence will equip you for the work ahead.
Wow JoeZ. Amazing. God bless you and your wife!
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3 kids, 2 teenage girls not handling it well,
Time the girls learned the facts of life like cooking, cleaning, laundry, washing floors meal planing etc
Momma has her hands full with hormones.
Congratulations and prayers.
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As far as the OP- this is an incredible blessing to your family- a true miracle. Make sure your wife knows how special she is to God be chosen for such a gift as this!
No doubt it is a shock to everyone, but once it all calms down she will see it as it really is- wonderful.
An acquaintance of mine got pregnant at 48. Her little girl, Maria is a joy to behold. They adore her!!!
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As a 56 year old who never could conceive, what a miracle. I'm speechless. Thanks be to God.
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As the Father & Husband, you have the duty to step forward and defend the Baby's life.
Find a Pro-life Catholic or Christian Obstetrician who understands the late pregnancy risks and will help you manage a safe pregnancy.
Nowadays, there's medical techniques to help insure a safer, late pregnancy delivery.
There will be a lot of pro-abort sentiment thrown at you, but stand firm.
Think of St. Anne delivering the chosen Mother Of God, Mary. She was 46 at the time of her Holy pregnancy.
Her doctor asked if she wanted to get rid of the baby, doubt if there are any Catholic obsetricians, anyhow she knows we are keeping the baby God willing. Will look into those medical techniques.thank you. To the others thanks for your support, God’s will be done
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Her doctor asked if she wanted to get rid of the baby, doubt if there are any Catholic obsetricians, anyhow she knows we are keeping the baby God willing. Will look into those medical techniques.thank you. To the others thanks for your support, God’s will be done
Prayers for you and your family.
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Her doctor asked if she wanted to get rid of the baby, doubt if there are any Catholic obsetricians, anyhow she knows we are keeping the baby God willing. Will look into those medical techniques.thank you. To the others thanks for your support, God’s will be done
Be assured that God planned and wants this baby. What a rare gift you have been given. Congratulations.
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Get rid of the doctor! Every time there is a pregnancy the womb is rejuvenated, young again. True. And chances are 97% for a normal healthy baby even at this age. Congratulations. Maybe the family would like to all get together for a name. I had a turn to name my sister, I gave to her Theresa Rose.
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Family in turmoil, anyone here who has experience with this pls let me know, wife not happy, 3 kids, 2 teenage girls not handling it well,
Wife not happy with the signified Will of God. Teenage daughters not coping. Sounds like the family needs an Ignatian Retreat, I cannot see any other remedy for this. Get them all to a retreat centre urgently before the pregnancy becomes too far advanced making it more difficult. In the meantime, pray the Rosary, and get the spirit of the world 'the enemies of the Cross of Christ' out of the home.
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My wife had our 12th at age 45 and our oldest was 26 with 3 of her own. We have grandchildren who will straw-buy alcohol for their aunt. :laugh1:
Only grace will get you through. Providence saw fit to bless you with another child and Providence will equip you for the work ahead.
King
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Time the girls learned the facts of life like cooking, cleaning, laundry, washing floors meal planing etc
Momma has her hands full with hormones.
Congratulations and prayers.
This 100%. Prayers for OP and your family.
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Obviously, this baby will be special to God.
If you can get that through to the others, the rest will fall into line.
You’re a good man, Sede3!
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As the Father & Husband, you have the duty to step forward and defend the Baby's life.
Find a Pro-life Catholic or Christian Obstetrician who understands the late pregnancy risks and will help you manage a safe pregnancy.
Nowadays, there's medical techniques to help insure a safer, late pregnancy delivery.
There will be a lot of pro-abort sentiment thrown at you, but stand firm.
Think of St. Anne delivering the chosen Mother Of God, Mary. She was 46 at the time of her Holy pregnancy.
Bravo, Incred!!
👍👍👍👏👏👏
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I know of a decent catholic OB who would be able to offer a second opinion or consult remotely if you are in need of a second opinion.
cz
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Her doctor asked if she wanted to get rid of the baby, doubt if there are any Catholic obsetricians, anyhow she knows we are keeping the baby God willing. Will look into those medical techniques.thank you. To the others thanks for your support, God’s will be done
What could be worse for a mother than to have her “doctor” suggest the killing of your precious child?
Be assured that there must be more suitable doctors.
Contact any agencies which offer help in difficult or unexpected pregnancies. Pregnancy Help organisations or Right to Life always have pro-life doctors on their boards or books. At least your dear wife could receive counsel or encouragement to keep spirits up in this early stage of pregnancy. She must need it in view of her own understandable anxieties, and your daughters’ negativity.
God bless you for being such a caring husband.
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I know of a decent catholic OB who would be able to offer a second opinion or consult remotely if you are in need of a second opinion.
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Yes Chris, please send me coordinates, thanks
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My wife had our 12th at age 45 and our oldest was 26 with 3 of her own. We have grandchildren who will straw-buy alcohol for their aunt. :laugh1:
Only grace will get you through. Providence saw fit to bless you with another child and Providence will equip you for the work ahead.
My mother was the last child in her family, born when my grandmother was pushing 40, and my mother had a niece who was several months older than her. My mother was born being an aunt.
I don't think her niece ever bought my mother alcohol. The niece was a major alcoholic (as well as having epilepsy) and died at a fairly young age on account of her illnesses. My mother doesn't drink, never had any bad habits, and is now 92, you wouldn't guess a day over 75, and totally in control of her mental faculties --- if you get into a debate with her, she will win and you will lose. Every time. Amazing lady.
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I understand the wife not being happy. It was well-known in my family that my mother was never happy when pregnant because she always had very physically difficult pregnancies. Only after the pregnancy ended with the delivery of another child did her unhappiness turn to joy.
What I don't understand is what the two teenage daughters have to do with anything. Tell them to lean their place in the family and stop belly-aching.
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I understand the wife not being happy. It was well-known in my family that my mother was never happy when pregnant because she always had very physically difficult pregnancies. Only after the pregnancy ended with the delivery of another child did her unhappiness turn to joy.
What I don't understand is what the two teenage daughters have to do with anything. Tell them to lean their place in the family and stop belly-aching.
I too can understand the mothers feelings because I have had difficult pregnancies and many miscarriages. The emotional angst is very difficult and pregnancy takes such a toll on the body. Trust me, there is a huge difference being pregnant in your 40’s vs 20’s, let alone 50’s.
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I understand the wife not being happy. It was well-known in my family that my mother was never happy when pregnant because she always had very physically difficult pregnancies. Only after the pregnancy ended with the delivery of another child did her unhappiness turn to joy.
What I don't understand is what the two teenage daughters have to do with anything. Tell them to lean their place in the family and stop belly-aching.
They may be embarrassed and not thrilled about being surrogate mothers.
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I understand the wife not being happy. It was well-known in my family that my mother was never happy when pregnant because she always had very physically difficult pregnancies. Only after the pregnancy ended with the delivery of another child did her unhappiness turn to joy.
What I don't understand is what the two teenage daughters have to do with anything. Tell them to lean their place in the family and stop belly-aching.
I don’t understand either, I am taking the tough approach but the wife isn’t happy with my approach
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They may be embarrassed and not thrilled about being surrogate mothers.
You maybe right, still no excuse for punishing their mother that way
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Everyone here would like to help but it's difficult without knowing the ages of the girls/children.
Advise or suggestions for approach differs from 13/14 years old than 18/19 years old.
If you're willing to devulge their ages it would help a great deal.
Also is this news to the girls or have they know for several months?
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Everyone here would like to help but it's difficult without knowing the ages of the girls/children.
Advise or suggestions for approach differs from 13/14 years old than 18/19 years old.
If you're willing to devulge their ages it would help a great deal.
Also is this news to the girls or have they know for several months?
18 and 16, just told them, we’ve only known for a week
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I don’t understand either, I am taking the tough approach but the wife isn’t happy with my approach
My great-grandmother had #8 at age 50, and back then, probably with a midwife and not a doctor either. All turned out well.
As for the girls, at ages 16 and 18, they should be able to reflect on and put into words exactly why they're unhappy. It would make for a revealing examination of conscience for them. A newborn in the family sort of puts the brakes on their self-focus and will also take up much of their mother's attention away from them. Similar to what several other posters here have said, it's a chance for them to mature in charity, humility, fortitude, and patience. So you can give them that little "assignment" to mull over.
Prayers for your wife, the baby, you, and the older children. :pray:
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Family in turmoil, anyone here who has experience with this pls let me know, wife not happy, 3 kids, 2 teenage girls not handling it well,
My godmother had her last child at the age of 49. Her last child has been a great blessing and companion to her ever since all of the other children left home. The daughter is 17 now and they are the best of friends and very close. Hopefully it will be like this for your wife! 🥰
Another dear friend of mine had her last baby around 45 years old. She was a traditional Catholic but many people (even Catholics) still ridiculed her for having a child that late in life... At first I was one of her only supporters. It wasn't easy but I do think that this last child helped bring the lady and her husband closer together. He even delivered the baby at home.
That being said... Are you a bit isolated or does your wife have good traditional friends to talk with about everything? I would love to be in contact with her if she is willing and can pm you with my phone number if she is interested. Sometimes it helps to just have someone to talk to who understands. 😇
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18 and 16, just told them, we’ve only known for a week
My gut reaction is to give them some time. I suspect this is a huge shock for them.
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Maybe then teenage girls are not happy, because of living arrangements that will change?
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I’d say congratulations and God’s blessings to you! In 1989, our 19 year old teaching assistant showed up at school kind of in a state of amazement. She’d just found out her 55 year old mother was pregnant, although supposedly through her with menopause! Well, God had other ideas. Baby #13, a girl, was born at home with a midwife, two days after Mom’s 56th birthday. Stephanie was 6lbs, 1oz, a day late, perfectly healthy. Mom had a normal pregnancy despite the doctor insisting she come in every other week, and then every week. He about flipped when she informed him she was having the same midwife as her last child 15 years before. Since they were Conservative Mennonites, he knew better than to bring up abortion. The grandchildren were all excited to go see grandma and grandpa’s new baby!
Stephanie is married now with a large family of her own. Last I heard, her mother is still living although her father passed away in 2015 or 2016.
As for the upset teen girls, they should be ashamed of themselves! Who says they’re going to be surrogate mothers? And even if their help is needed more than usual, they should consider it an honor to help raise their youngest sibling.
P.S. Do fire the doctor and find one who loves babies!
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I’d say congratulations and God’s blessings to you! In 1989, our 19 year old teaching assistant showed up at school kind of in a state of amazement. She’d just found out her 55 year old mother was pregnant, although supposedly through her with menopause! Well, God had other ideas. Baby #13, a girl, was born at home with a midwife, two days after Mom’s 56th birthday. Stephanie was 6lbs, 1oz, a day late, perfectly healthy. Mom had a normal pregnancy despite the doctor insisting she come in every other week, and then every week. He about flipped when she informed him she was having the same midwife as her last child 15 years before. Since they were Conservative Mennonites, he knew better than to bring up abortion. The grandchildren were all excited to go see grandma and grandpa’s new baby!
Stephanie is married now with a large family of her own. Last I heard, her mother is still living although her father passed away in 2015 or 2016.
As for the upset teen girls, they should be ashamed of themselves! Who says they’re going to be surrogate mothers? And even if their help is needed more than usual, they should consider it an honor to help raise their youngest sibling.
P.S. Do fire the doctor and find one who loves babies!
Wow! What a story! Thank you for sharing! :cowboy:
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Wow! What a story! Thank you for sharing! :cowboy:
^^^This! Once the teenagers lay eyes on that beautiful baby, they’re never going to want to let him/her go, just wait and see😊.
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She’d just found out her 55 year old mother was pregnant, although supposedly through her with menopause!
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A lady at my church had number ten when she was 52. Yeah, the teenage "surrogate mothers" need to "man up" and help out their mom.
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A lady at my church had number ten when she was 52. Yeah, the teenage "surrogate mothers" need to "man up" and help out their mom.
From what I have gathered, if a woman has a child that late in life she already had a number of children already. I have never heard of a woman having a baby at that age who never had a child before (well, outside of biblical figures).
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Just an update, my wife lost the baby, wasn’t meant to be, God’s will be done
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My condolences, S3. :'( :pray:
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Just an update, my wife lost the baby, wasn’t meant to be, God’s will be done
I'm so sorry. :pray:
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So sorry to hear that, but all things are for a reason. Perhaps the older girls need to re-evaluate their ideas regarding motherhood?
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So sorry for your loss. :pray:
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Just an update, my wife lost the baby, wasn’t meant to be, God’s will be done
Thank you for the update.
We have been remembering her in our daily rosaries and I was going to try and find this thread to ask how she was doing.
Miscarriages are hard... May God bless you and your family! :pray::pray::pray:
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My condolences. :pray:
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I’m so sorry for your loss. :pray:
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So sorry. God bless you all
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Sad to hear it. :pray:
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My deepest sympathy for your loss. :pray:
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Praying for you and your family. Even though this whole experience has been a shock, your wife is grieving the loss of this little one. She needs the love of all her family around her while she grieves.
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Just an update, my wife lost the baby, wasn’t meant to be, God’s will be done
I am so sorry.
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Your family has been in my thoughts and prayers!
So sorry for your loss
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