My husband is drinking himself to death.
He is a fallen away Novus Ordo convert who refused to attend Tridentine Mass with me and the children when I found Tradition 10 years ago (my whole life was spent in Novus Ordo) He told me it wasn't for him, 'no thanks'. So the children and I continued to go to Mass by ourselves.
The move to Tradition caused a split in our marriage which makes him extremely unsympathetic to any of my basic needs. Pornography of course reared it's disgusting head, found years ago by me, and sadly, when confronted, he had zero remorse for, an no desire to give it up at all.
Our income suffers because he only works part time, much less than he ever has, so we live on very meager means.
Television is on constantly and he likes the children to stay up til 2am to watch with him. Homeschool suffers..yes it would.
I have consulted many Traditional Catholic Priests over 10 years and none have given permission for me to leave. They only say that they will offer prayers for us, encourage me to stay, keep praying and to continue to offer it up. (Always a recommendation devotion to St Rita and St Monica)
Several priests have heard my tears and my pleas for help, and none have given me permission to leave. Not even to get a job to help with essentials.
Is the advice to stay possibly a mistake of sspx priests? What would the reason be for a woman to continue under such circuмstances with children involved?
If I had my own job and no children I would have no problem being married to this man, I can easily escape to my room to avoid him for the most part, but my children cannot.
I could earn my own money and take care of my needs, but having children keeps me home and in this case dependent on, well, him.
My largest concern is for my children watching their father live so corrupt.
I have asked family for help but they won't get involved because no one wants to confront my husband.
I would imagine that a hundred years ago some man in a family, a father, brother or uncle, would kick a guy like this in the pants for destroying his wife and kids' lives by such a wicked lifestyle.
Unfortunately for us here though we have no MEN to speak up on our behalf.
I pray very much that someday my children will get the chance to grow up in a real Traditional Catholic Family AND home.
Jesus and Mary have mercy on us