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Why is the Path to Marriage Made Difficult?
« on: May 27, 2022, 07:54:00 PM »
50 bajillion dollar weddings, Freudian psychological compatibility tests, courting for 15 years to see if he/she is really the one, talking about every single topic to make sure we are really on the same page, meeting friends and family to see if I can get along with them, etc.

Who the fudge cookies cares? All of these things are done today and most marriages are failures and unhappy.

Where has gone the innocence of simply falling in love and getting on with life by getting married and starting a family?

Why all the need for this superfluous complexity that causes many young people to stay single for years on end and end up depressed and unfulfilled even if they do get married? It’s stupid and flamboyant.

”My son will only marry an educated girl who looks like celebrity X.”

Ma’am, your son is retarded.

“My daughter will only marry a doctor whose salary exceeds 300k a year.”

Sir, you might as well make sure that you keep your daughter’s room out of your plans for any future updates because she isn’t going anywhere anytime soon.

It’s like some sort of Quantum Physics equation or something.

It’s not that difficult folks. People have been doing it easily and successfully for thousands of years with low divorce rates even outside of the Catholic sphere.

The angelic purity and innocence of women is gone and most dudes are just as messed up.

Man, modern culture really slapped the sense out of people. It’s like some sort of joke. All the while birth rates are in the garbage bin for everyone but blacks and Asians and divorce rates are up the wazoo.

/rant over. :popcorn:

Re: Why is the Path to Marriage Made Difficult?
« Reply #1 on: May 27, 2022, 08:35:06 PM »
Maybe because people need to focus on God instead of the world.  

Complexity is of the devil.  Television, movies, music, cell phones, immodest fashion have been used to deceive many.  Broken families are promoted and celebrated.  

If people prayed and learned their faith, it would be much easier.  They would have the tools to live a Catholic life.  

The Church starts in the home with the family.  God’s marriage is man and woman.   The true gospel of Jesus Christ needs to be spread.   Everyone can talk about sports and politics but not about Jesus.  







Re: Why is the Path to Marriage Made Difficult?
« Reply #3 on: May 28, 2022, 10:17:41 AM »
I've noticed that there are a lot of people, especially women, in our time, who throw up every imaginable self-perceived obstacle to getting married, in essence, "talking themselves out of it".  I have to suspect that a lot of them, either deep down or not so deep down, just don't want to get married, or have made up their minds that they will not marry unless they find someone with an impossible degree of perfection or conformity to their preconceived notions.  Many women pride themselves on "not settling", which is fine, they're free agents, no one has to marry, lifelong singlehood is not terribly disliked in Catholic circles, but the sad part is that they reach a certain age, no children, never will be children, self-sufficient and independent, but at the same time lonely and looking down the barrel of an old age with few people who even care that they exist.  

But on the other hand, if a woman peers into a potential future as a wife and mother, and is committed to the moral law of marriage, she might well make the entirely rational decision that unhampered fecundity, having more children than she cares to contemplate having to raise and be responsible for, just isn't for her.  She doesn't want a life that's going to be that difficult.  Again, that's fine, she's a free agent, if one doesn't have the temperament for it, then maybe it's not the best choice.  Indeed, I have a pet theory that many women went into the convent in pre-Vatican II years because they didn't want to face the prospect of a difficult life, with many children, and a marriage that could just as easily be an unhappy one as a happy one, and saw consecration to the service of Our Lord as an attractive prospect.  I can already hear the "Novus Ordo Puritan" types blubbering, "no, that can't be, a vocation has to be pure, a vocation has to be absolutely uninfluenced by any motives that are less than perfect", but that's just another manifestation of the extremism that often arises in the fever swamps of the more "conservative" parts of Newchurch.  Our Lord can perfectly well make His Will for us, and His vocation, apparent through even the imperfect aspects of our temperament and circuмstances.

Re: Why is the Path to Marriage Made Difficult?
« Reply #4 on: May 28, 2022, 12:41:49 PM »
Why is the Path to Marriage Made Difficult?

Because satan exists.