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Author Topic: Why don't modern wives desire to be completely dependent on their husbands?  (Read 9143 times)

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Offline Gray2023

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  • Well men are afraid to marry women because of the no-fault divorce laws. I heard of stories where women who have many children with their husbands just file for divorce and bleed as much money as possible from the man. Try to get full custody, bad-mouth the dad to the children. The men become suicidal because their wages are being garnished and they have no motivation to work. They have the risk of never seeing their children again and witnessing some other man raise them. The sweet woman that they married could turn into a greedy feminist 20-40 years down the line because their female friends tell them they could do better or their husband is controlling, etc. The Bible is literally saying that women should submit to their husbands and it has been a problem since Adam and Eve. Feminism caused The Fall essentially.
    Yes and the situation you describe breaks my heart as well.  
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  • I agree people can convert and change. 

    What I meant by giving the benefit of the doubt is that I can't influence random women.  Speculating on situations, doesn't actually solve the situation.  I only have the ability to influence women that I have access to.  And even then they still choose there own free will to do the wrong thing, like get a divorce or not trust and submit to their husband.

    Men seem to tend toward theories, and women tend to societal application and maybe this is why discussions get skewed often. :confused:

    There is a reason that the great thinkers are always men.

    I am not saying that women can't think, but they tend to be practical and get things done, while men are more interested in theory and usually have a more vivid imagination.

    This is exactly how they complement each other on marriage. Children need a mother and a father, because each bring different things to the education.


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  • Well men are afraid to marry women because of the no-fault divorce laws.
    No fault divorce actually rules in the man's favour now as assets are split evenly compared to the past.
    Before 1986 in Canada the woman could retain the house until the youngest child was one full year out of school.  Then the house was sold and divided (not always evenly) and in the mean time the husband paid support, mortgage etc.  The reason was, it was mostly the man who was at fault because MOST women did stay at home and it was the man who got into trouble outside the home.  (In the US this law came into affect earlier in 1969 under divorced Ronald Reagan)

    At that time there were almost no women in politics (as it should be) so the men brought in no fault divorce (for their benefit) almost forcing the women to work or at the very least be prepared to work.

    All just another part of the slippery slope of the last hundred years to destroy the family.


    I heard of stories where women who have many children with their husbands just file for divorce and bleed as much money as possible from the man. Try to get full custody, bad-mouth the dad to the children. The men become suicidal because their wages are being garnished and they have no motivation to work. They have the risk of never seeing their children again and witnessing some other man raise them.
    And that's just what they are...stories.  You know what happens with gossip...it gets added to.
    If true, the above story would be terrible, HOWEVER, that's only one side or part of the story... the result.
    If you got to actually read family court and divorce court docuмents or sat on a jury, the above story is what the wife is often willing to endure (being labeled a shrew or gold digger) rather than have the story of family incest become public knowledge.  Sometimes the husband deserves what he gets.
    "Let God arise, and let His enemies be scattered: and them that hate Him flee from before His Holy Face"  Psalm 67:2[/b]


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  • Short answer to OP’s question.  Because modern men are far from completely dependable.

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  • Because modern men are far from completely dependable.
    One needn't be perfectly dependable to be dependable.

    Your argument reminds me of the Protestants' argument against Catholics praying to the saints. They say: "Why don't you Catholics just pray to God directly?"
    Similarly here, I could ask: "Why don't you just depend on God directly? Isn't he far more dependable than any mortal man?"
    But God helps us through secondary causes (saints in heaven, people on earth, incl. husbands).
    Even the greatest contemplatives like St. Teresa of Ávila depended on other men in Church Militant and the saints in Church Triumphant. No great female (or male) saint was so prideful as to think she could do without men and depend on God alone.

    Quote from: Eph 5:22
    Let women be subject to their husbands, as to the Lord
    He doesn't say: "Let women be subject to God alone."

    Feminists have a hatred of God (or god = themselves), ultimately.
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  • alcohol is a big one... big BIG one in Catholic circles...
    And not just among the men. I am a case in point, sober now for 14 months, Deo gratias.
    There are no disappointments to those whose wills are buried in the will of God.
    (Fr. Frederick Faber, Bethlehem)

    Offline Gray2023

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  • And not just among the men. I am a case in point, sober now for 14 months, Deo gratias.
    :pray::pray::pray:
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