In my old job, I was given an interesting piece of advice from a woman who was divorced, and she told me to ask people about marriage advice not from people who have been divorced but rather from those who have been married a long time like an older couple I have known.

It is so tragic to still gather the common attitude among the generation before me about IF a couple stays together, IF it works out, or failing to grasp the idea of the indissolubility of marriage. There is no IF. The couple still chose to get married, and it does not matter whether they deny the objective reality that they are married until death do they part.

The thing is the coworker I mentioned was right because you can get all kinds of ideas and outlooks from her generation that came before me. I mean one may even have the right idea about marriage, but actions and example count for something even more because the persons married actually are consistent in their life with what marriage is about. On the other hand, others would at least advise about what not to do. Nevertheless, those who gave a better example of self-sacrifice in marriage are the best to follow.

What would you say about this?