I think there is a great and urgent need for professional counselors and psychologists in traditional Catholic communities, who receive the necessary training at the schools and Universities whilst cultivating an interior life of prayer and the reception of the Sacraments, together with the practice of the virtues, that will enable them to discern that which is false in the modern day pedagogical modules and constructs wherewith they would be trained and educated at said institutions and hold on to that which is useful and necessary for these fields.
Many people often think that a Priest knows everything, and that he has the competence to answer any question or solve any problem. However, a man does not go to the Seminary to become a scientist, or a psychologist, or a medical physician, or even a theologian. He goes to the Seminary to become a Priest, a Pastor of souls, and he learns the rudimentary things about the many branches of the sacred sciences necessary for the worthy and decorous performance of the duties and necessities of his Priestly state. A Priest cannot really replace a professional counselor or a psychologist in most instances.
Lanciano, as TKGS has wisely written, we cannot satisfactorily and accurately answer the queries you have as we are not acquainted with the details of your predicament. All that we can do is point out some things that may prove useful.
From what I have read in your post, I can see (unless I am mistaken) that there are two fundamental issues that are essentially independent but are quite intertwined in the practical order of things: 1) one's personal search for the profession and practice of the traditional Catholic faith; and 2) the problematic ramifications that such a search tends to have on the domestic order of one's household, and this is especially complex when one happens to be the head of the household as husband and father, with the care of a wife and children such a one must bear.
For the first issue, the counsel of your Father Confessor and Spiritual director must be sought, together with studious and prayerful reading. For the latter issue, the help of a counselor would be needed, depending upon the variable factors in any given individual predicament. Of course, prayer is the first and best recourse for both issues.
The problematic issues that affect one's household when one ventures forth in search of the true Catholic faith are things that many here have probably experienced in some way or another. Perhaps if people would relate their experiences, you can get some ideas as to how to deal with this situation.
I have known several men who are in a similar situation which you describe, some of whom have been abandoned by their wives and have bereft them of their children. They ascribe their ability to cope with such a disastrous predicament to the counsel of their Spiritual Directors, the frequent reception of the Sacraments and a life of prayer that will enable one to see things differently and attain to a sort of discretion that will allow one to know the best way to approach problems in communication.
I wish I could be of substantial assistance, but I will keep you in my prayers.