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One thing about being in your twenties and living in rural suburbia is enjoying "nightlife". I have a good deal of friends and most weekends of my twenties have been spent doing things like bar crawls and dancing with live music. Going to various bars and clubs and engaging in all sorts of depravity. I converted a few years back and obviously had to leave a lot of that life behind and looking back it's pretty crazy how commonplace that party lifestyle is for so many people. 

As I've become more moral and tried to actually live a virtuous lifestyle that entire culture is so bewildering. I was at a bar last night and just staring into the endless sea of young people and got overtook with this sense of dread over the purposeless of it all. It's incredibly vain. 

I'm not really trying to judge, as I genuinely see the good in most people, but there is some kind of insidious evil that exists in so many common activities. It's not really an obvious evil either. It's people out "having a good time" but all that amounts to is drinking to excess (or doing other drugs), or flirting in hopes to engage in casual sex and all sorts of debauchery. I'm very grateful that even when I wasn't Catholic I always had a long term girlfriend and never engaged in "hookup culture". It's all just very disgusting and upsets me how common it is. My best friend's Dad, who's Brazilian and extemely Catholic, genuinely believes that demon's lurk around bars and night clubs and going anywhere near there is asking for trouble.

I guess on a positive note what do you guys do for fun with friends that's not this? I, unfortunately, live far away from most of my friend group now so our options for hanging out are very limited. I think from here on out I'd rather have people over and we can play a board game or something simple and have a few drinks instead of doing the whole nightlife thing. 

What about sports like hiking, canoeing, bicycling, tent camping, riding four-wheelers, or if that’s not a possibility, maybe a basketball game, work out at the gym, fishing, horseback riding, hunting, go to the range…Follow up with snacks or a barbecue, shoot the breeze around a backyard campfire, watch an historic game online, ie. USA vs. Soviet Union, 1980 Olympics.  If you have access to a wood shop, make projects together, play games like chess, checkers, dominoes, cards.  Do you like NASCAR, auto or horse racing? Demolition derby, or its opposite, a car show. None of these involve consumption of alcohol or patronizing businesses where there are apt to be scantily clad women. Going out for a few beers is fine, just be discerning about where you go.  

She doesn't have to fish. She could still attend, just read or listen to music.