Author Topic: What Should Men Do To Become Someone Women Want To Marry? (Read 12401 times)

Marcelino · « **on:** July 03, 2012, 11:24:59 PM »

What should men do to become someone women want to marry? Lots of men beat their heads against the wall and come up empty. They seem to need guidance. Men are task oriented and they like to focus intensely on one thing at a time. So, if you give them a short list of things to do, they got a real shot at success. So, what's your absolutely must have list for men and then whatever else you want to add. Men and women contributors please. All are welcome.

catherineofsiena · « **Reply #1 on:** July 04, 2012, 02:59:54 AM »

catherineofsiena · « **Reply #2 on:** July 04, 2012, 03:01:41 AM »

The reason I posted that is because if I say anything I will be labeled a liberal, feminist whore....etc...etc.

So I'll lurk for a while.

Stubborn · « **Reply #3 on:** July 04, 2012, 04:43:28 AM »

Quote from: Marcelino

What should men do to become someone women want to marry?

How about be themselves so as not to fool their potential mate.

Hopefully, that means the man will be a man with who understands his responsibility as husband and father. A man who will provide and remain faithful to God, wife and children in his duties, in sickness and in health etc.

The flames of passion will soon turn to ashes and reality will rear it's mighty head, it's then that both spouses will find out how much they allowed themselves to be fooled.
I think that if both were raised and lived according to the faith, they both would have "become" someone desirable to marry without even realizing it well before the actual event.................if men (or women for that matter) feel they need to become someone they are not in order to get married, I think it's only a matter of time before the "old" man/woman comes out and dominates - typically, it's at that time when the other partner realizes the person they married is not the same person sitting across the table.

Find someone as much like you as possible - best advice ever.

Traditional Guy 20 · « **Reply #4 on:** July 04, 2012, 05:44:09 AM »

Quote from: catherineofsiena

The reason I posted that is because if I say anything I will be labeled a liberal, feminist whore....etc...etc.

So I'll lurk for a while.

Nonsense even us sexists believe in two-ways. :wink:

Well first of all having qualities of a good husband and father, which means having a good time with the children. Personally I think the father should teach his sons how to box, spend as much time with his children as possible, read them a bedtime story, bringing the kids to school, and try to do activities with them especially during the summer etc. etc. etc.

I think the man should work as hard as he can to provide for his family, even if he has to work two jobs to make sure his wife doesn't have to work outside the home.

Of course a man should never committ adultery, look at pornography, and other obvious sɛҳuąƖ sins.

Nadir · « **Reply #5 on:** July 04, 2012, 05:55:31 AM »

Quote from: Stubborn

Find someone as much like you as possible - best advice ever.

Not necessarily. Find one to complement you! I didn't say compliment you!

Nylndech · « **Reply #6 on:** July 04, 2012, 09:17:28 AM »

Quote from: catherineofsiena

The reason I posted that is because if I say anything I will be labeled a liberal, feminist whore....etc...etc.

So I'll lurk for a while.

so basically yoru saying that you are a lib femme

and you dont want to say anything because you dont want to be called one by reason of what you say

and there fore you are saying your lib femme attitude will come out once you say your piece

but then by saying this you admit you are one anyway

if you are not a lib femme then nothing you say should be accused of being lib femme

clare · « **Reply #7 on:** July 04, 2012, 09:45:25 AM »

Quote from: Nylndech

Quote from: catherineofsiena
The reason I posted that is because if I say anything I will be labeled a liberal, feminist whore....etc...etc.

So I'll lurk for a while.

so basically yoru saying that you are a lib femme

and you dont want to say anything because you dont want to be called one by reason of what you say

and there fore you are saying your lib femme attitude will come out once you say your piece

but then by saying this you admit you are one anyway

if you are not a lib femme then nothing you say should be accused of being lib femme

One does not actually have to be a liberal feminist to be accused of being one around here!

songbird · « **Reply #8 on:** July 04, 2012, 10:13:04 AM »

I am on the serious side. Married 39 years to the same guy, best friend! My high suggestion is put it to prayer. Next, be your self! Be a friend. Don't spoil a lady. Ladies like flowers, keep it to one stem for now. Make sure she is a lady! If you ever date, make sure the date is fun! Tennis, bowling, picnic and stay away from movies unless you really know it will not be offensive. Resturants that are quiet, no loud music. Be a gentleman. Ask Our Lady to help you in that area. She will help you to be a REAL MAN. But it is important to be yourself. They need to see you as you truly are and it will be easier all the way around to enjoy finding someone. We have a son age 35 and he too would like a nice lady. I have told him to keep it to prayer. If God wants a lady for you, he will see to it! And I have warned my son, you can not act quickly if one comes along. You must be on your guard. all it takes is one wrong move and you can be worse off, than you are now. You may think you are crying with both eyes, when in reality you are crying with one. We are in very evil times and you must be on your guard. I am off my perch.

ora pro me · « **Reply #9 on:** July 04, 2012, 02:36:48 PM »

May I address those who gave Catherineofsienna down-thumbs (4 for far)?

You have perhaps missed out on a chance to hear exactly what the OP is asking to hear. I do remember the threads to which catherine is referring and it is my opinion that her posts were sometimes misinterpreted and she was criticized with words that should not have been addressed to a lady, especially a Catholic lady, whether online or in person.

So, Catherine, may I hear what you have to say? Perhaps your thoughts would be something that I could add to my advice to my sons, both married and unmarried. I would be most appreciative.

ora pro me · « **Reply #10 on:** July 04, 2012, 02:39:03 PM »

Songbird, that was a fine post and excellent advice to your your son. Congratulations to you and your husband on your many years of blessed marriage.

ora pro me · « **Reply #11 on:** July 04, 2012, 02:54:44 PM »

Quote from: Marcelino

What should men do to become someone women want to marry? Lots of men beat their heads against the wall and come up empty. They seem to need guidance. Men are task oriented and they like to focus intensely on one thing at a time. So, if you give them a short list of things to do, they got a real shot at success. So, what's your absolutely must have list for men and then whatever else you want to add. Men and women contributors please. All are welcome.

You asked for a short list and here's mine:

Go to Mass and Holy Communion as frequently as possible.Pray the Rosary every day. If you are courting a lady, ask her to pray it with you on your dates, preferrably in church or not in church than in your family's home or her family's home. When you can't get together continue to encourage each other to pray the daily Rosary.

Go to frequent confession and make the First Fridays and First Saturdays. Again, if you are courting a lady, ask her to make them with you.

Treat a lady like a lady. If you haven't been taught how a gentleman should treat a lady watch the older men at your church who have wives or go ahead and ask them. Old fogies like me love to be asked our opinions from young folks. :geezer:

Since you asked for a short list, I'll stop now since those are the priorities. Everything else will follow.

I regularly pray for everyone on this site. My best wishes to all of you that you may each have the graces that you need in your state of life.

catherineofsiena · « **Reply #12 on:** July 04, 2012, 04:52:19 PM »

Quote from: Nylndech

Quote from: catherineofsiena
The reason I posted that is because if I say anything I will be labeled a liberal, feminist whore....etc...etc.

So I'll lurk for a while.

so basically yoru saying that you are a lib femme

and you dont want to say anything because you dont want to be called one by reason of what you say

and there fore you are saying your lib femme attitude will come out once you say your piece

but then by saying this you admit you are one anyway

if you are not a lib femme then nothing you say should be accused of being lib femme

What an awful post. Nasty and full of assumptions. No, I am not a liberal feminist. The reason I posted that is exactly because of posters like you. No matter what women say on this site they get accused by bitter men.

Add yourself to that list. You should be ashamed.

catherineofsiena · « **Reply #13 on:** July 04, 2012, 04:58:50 PM »

Quote from: ora pro me

May I address those who gave Catherineofsienna down-thumbs (4 for far)?

You have perhaps missed out on a chance to hear exactly what the OP is asking to hear. I do remember the threads to which catherine is referring and it is my opinion that her posts were sometimes misinterpreted and she was criticized with words that should not have been addressed to a lady, especially a Catholic lady, whether online or in person.

So, Catherine, may I hear what you have to say? Perhaps your thoughts would be something that I could add to my advice to my sons, both married and unmarried. I would be most appreciative.

It's not worth it. I got 4 thumbs down for stating the obvious and refraining to comment.

The threads I was referring to were mostly ones where I lurked. I learned the hard way the first few times I posted with the belief we could have some honest discussion.

There are men here who truly hate women and hide under the veneer of Catholicism. It's a spiritual sickness.

s2srea · « **Reply #14 on:** July 04, 2012, 05:11:56 PM »

Quote from: catherineofsiena

Quote from: ora pro me
May I address those who gave Catherineofsienna down-thumbs (4 for far)?

You have perhaps missed out on a chance to hear exactly what the OP is asking to hear. I do remember the threads to which catherine is referring and it is my opinion that her posts were sometimes misinterpreted and she was criticized with words that should not have been addressed to a lady, especially a Catholic lady, whether online or in person.

So, Catherine, may I hear what you have to say? Perhaps your thoughts would be something that I could add to my advice to my sons, both married and unmarried. I would be most appreciative.

It's not worth it. I got 4 thumbs down for stating the obvious and refraining to comment.

The threads I was referring to were mostly ones where I lurked. I learned the hard way the first few times I posted with the belief we could have some honest discussion.

There are men here who truly hate women and hide under the veneer of Catholicism. It's a spiritual sickness.

I'm sorry for the immaturiy found in this forum Catherine, it wasn't always this way, bit the reason for why you didn't post is exactly why so many don't post on these topics here. It's not so much that they're afraid of being called a feminist but the kind of people who are ignorant and obtuse enough to do so are usually too bad willed, stupid, and have too much tome on their hands, so that they can rant on and on mindlessly for hours. The conversation would never end, usually cause they too busy being sophists on internet for a instead of seeking a job to support a wife, and you wouldn't be able to make any points which would stick because their heads are too hard.