Author Topic: What if you want to marry a Protestant? (Read 3156 times)

InfiniteFaith · « **on:** July 17, 2014, 09:18:13 PM »

And the person wants to teach the kids their beliefs instead of Catholic beliefs? Could you still marry the person provided that you teach the kids Catholic beliefs? Kinda like a competition...the Catholic parent teaches the kids the Catholic point of view and the protestant parent teaches them the protestant point of view. Or must the protestant parent agree to teach the kids Catholic beliefs? The later case seems to be unrealistic if you ask me.

shin · « **Reply #1 on:** July 17, 2014, 09:31:13 PM »

I think that kind of compromise is called 'making an agreement with the devil'.

Equal time for Satan?

2Vermont · « **Reply #2 on:** July 17, 2014, 09:40:50 PM »

Do you want the kids to learn the truth or heresy?

I would highly suggest the Catholic not marry the heretic.

Matthew · « **Reply #3 on:** July 17, 2014, 09:49:25 PM »

Think ~~twice~~ a thousand times before you marry a protestant.

Sure, by expanding your "pool" you're statistically more likely to end up with a real "looker".

However, looks aren't everything. This is the woman who is going to form your children. She will have opposing views about the world, the Faith, and just about everything else.

And even that one "plus" -- her great looks -- can be a negative. Protestants believe in divorce. When the infatuation/lust/excitement phase wears off, she might end up finding another guy more fascinating (at her job perhaps?) and then it's all downhill for you.

Remember, the world is rigged against men when it comes to divorce. Your only hope is to marry a women that would NEVER consider it, even if things were horrible in her marriage.

And so if you end up getting separated or divorced, you'd be forever alone (if you married in the church) while your days would be spent remembering "the good times" -- and how some man, somewhere out there is enjoying that right now. Right down to and including the pleasure of raising your children if you had any! (Remember, the woman always gets primary custody unless she's not only a crack addict, but a crack dealer as well!)

Again I say -- think long and hard about it. There's a common expression that comes to mind...

johnb104 · « **Reply #4 on:** July 17, 2014, 10:10:41 PM »

Don't do it. You'll leave the Church, and have a child that will convert and bug you for the rest of your life to make a good confession. And you'll always hear him praying the Rosary as you go to bed. What?

InfiniteFaith · « **Reply #5 on:** July 17, 2014, 10:11:21 PM »

Quote from: Matthew

Think ~~twice~~ a thousand times before you marry a protestant.

Sure, by expanding your "pool" you're statistically more likely to end up with a real "looker".

However, looks aren't everything. This is the woman who is going to form your children. She will have opposing views about the world, the Faith, and just about everything else.

And even that one "plus" -- her great looks -- can be a negative. Protestants believe in divorce. When the infatuation/lust/excitement phase wears off, she might end up finding another guy more fascinating (at her job perhaps?) and then it's all downhill for you.

Remember, the world is rigged against men when it comes to divorce. Your only hope is to marry a women that would NEVER consider it, even if things were horrible in her marriage.

And so if you end up getting separated or divorced, you'd be forever alone (if you married in the church) while your days would be spent remembering "the good times" -- and how some man, somewhere out there is enjoying that right now. Right down to and including the pleasure of raising your children if you had any! (Remember, the woman always gets primary custody unless she's not only a crack addict, but a crack dealer as well!)

Again I say -- think long and hard about it. And for the love of humanity please think with the right head.

Yes I see your point. it almost seems to be a no win situation. But then again, the Church allows it. The fact that the Church allows it makes me think that it is ok.

poche · « **Reply #6 on:** July 17, 2014, 10:27:47 PM »

Quote from: InfiniteFaith

And the person wants to teach the kids their beliefs instead of Catholic beliefs? Could you still marry the person provided that you teach the kids Catholic beliefs? Kinda like a competition...the Catholic parent teaches the kids the Catholic point of view and the protestant parent teaches them the protestant point of view. Or must the protestant parent agree to teach the kids Catholic beliefs? The later case seems to be unrealistic if you ask me.

That situation would be an impediment to the marriage.

Quasimodo · « **Reply #7 on:** July 18, 2014, 07:09:20 AM »

Quote from: InfiniteFaith

Quote from: Matthew
Think ~~twice~~ a thousand times before you marry a protestant.

Sure, by expanding your "pool" you're statistically more likely to end up with a real "looker".

However, looks aren't everything. This is the woman who is going to form your children. She will have opposing views about the world, the Faith, and just about everything else.

And even that one "plus" -- her great looks -- can be a negative. Protestants believe in divorce. When the infatuation/lust/excitement phase wears off, she might end up finding another guy more fascinating (at her job perhaps?) and then it's all downhill for you.

Remember, the world is rigged against men when it comes to divorce. Your only hope is to marry a women that would NEVER consider it, even if things were horrible in her marriage.

And so if you end up getting separated or divorced, you'd be forever alone (if you married in the church) while your days would be spent remembering "the good times" -- and how some man, somewhere out there is enjoying that right now. Right down to and including the pleasure of raising your children if you had any! (Remember, the woman always gets primary custody unless she's not only a crack addict, but a crack dealer as well!)

Again I say -- think long and hard about it. And for the love of humanity please think with the right head.

Yes I see your point. it almost seems to be a no win situation. But then again, the Church allows it. The fact that the Church allows it makes me think that it is ok.

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BALTIMORE CATECHISM #3
LESSON 26 - ON MATRIMONY
Q. 1036. Does the Church forbid the marriage of Catholics with persons who have a different religion or no religion at all?

A. The Church does forbid the marriage of Catholics with persons who have a different religion or no religion at all.

2Vermont · « **Reply #8 on:** July 18, 2014, 07:18:38 AM »

Quote from: Quasimodo

Quote from: InfiniteFaith
Quote from: Matthew
Think ~~twice~~ a thousand times before you marry a protestant.

Sure, by expanding your "pool" you're statistically more likely to end up with a real "looker".

However, looks aren't everything. This is the woman who is going to form your children. She will have opposing views about the world, the Faith, and just about everything else.

And even that one "plus" -- her great looks -- can be a negative. Protestants believe in divorce. When the infatuation/lust/excitement phase wears off, she might end up finding another guy more fascinating (at her job perhaps?) and then it's all downhill for you.

Remember, the world is rigged against men when it comes to divorce. Your only hope is to marry a women that would NEVER consider it, even if things were horrible in her marriage.

And so if you end up getting separated or divorced, you'd be forever alone (if you married in the church) while your days would be spent remembering "the good times" -- and how some man, somewhere out there is enjoying that right now. Right down to and including the pleasure of raising your children if you had any! (Remember, the woman always gets primary custody unless she's not only a crack addict, but a crack dealer as well!)

Again I say -- think long and hard about it. And for the love of humanity please think with the right head.

Yes I see your point. it almost seems to be a no win situation. But then again, the Church allows it. The fact that the Church allows it makes me think that it is ok.

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BALTIMORE CATECHISM #3
LESSON 26 - ON MATRIMONY
Q. 1036. Does the Church forbid the marriage of Catholics with persons who have a different religion or no religion at all?

A. The Church does forbid the marriage of Catholics with persons who have a different religion or no religion at all.

Stop muddying the waters with pre-Vatican II Church teachings! ;-)

Dolores · « **Reply #9 on:** July 18, 2014, 07:55:23 AM »

Quote from: InfiniteFaith

Quote from: Matthew
Think ~~twice~~ a thousand times before you marry a protestant.

Sure, by expanding your "pool" you're statistically more likely to end up with a real "looker".

However, looks aren't everything. This is the woman who is going to form your children. She will have opposing views about the world, the Faith, and just about everything else.

And even that one "plus" -- her great looks -- can be a negative. Protestants believe in divorce. When the infatuation/lust/excitement phase wears off, she might end up finding another guy more fascinating (at her job perhaps?) and then it's all downhill for you.

Remember, the world is rigged against men when it comes to divorce. Your only hope is to marry a women that would NEVER consider it, even if things were horrible in her marriage.

And so if you end up getting separated or divorced, you'd be forever alone (if you married in the church) while your days would be spent remembering "the good times" -- and how some man, somewhere out there is enjoying that right now. Right down to and including the pleasure of raising your children if you had any! (Remember, the woman always gets primary custody unless she's not only a crack addict, but a crack dealer as well!)

Again I say -- think long and hard about it. And for the love of humanity please think with the right head.

Yes I see your point. it almost seems to be a no win situation. But then again, the Church allows it. The fact that the Church allows it makes me think that it is ok.

The Church only permits Catholics to marry non-Catholics as an exception. Generally speaking, such marriages are prohibited. When such marriages are permitted, the Church requires the non-Catholic party to promise to raise the children as Catholics.

The situation you described in your OP is one of the many reasons why such marriages are discouraged and allowed only as an exception to the rule.

clare · « **Reply #10 on:** July 18, 2014, 09:35:31 AM »

Quote from: InfiniteFaith

... But then again, the Church allows it. The fact that the Church allows it makes me think that it is ok.

Erm, ahem... Dare I remind you that the Church also allows marriages that you strongly disapprove of?

Anyhow, the Church forbids marriage to non-Catholics as a rule, although it is not that uncommon for dispensations to be granted.

The non-Catholict has to agree that their children be raised Catholic. Best case scenario, the non-Catholic spouse converts to Catholicism eventually.

I gather that, before Vatican II, Catholics and non-Catholic couldn't have a nuptial Mass. (Correct me if I'm wrong...)

Frances · « **Reply #11 on:** July 18, 2014, 10:05:51 AM »

Just an observation. Every Catholic/Protestant marriage with which I'm personally familiar has lost their children to the world. Its a very bad idea. Don't ruin your life on earth and lose your soul for eternity because of your "feelings" for another. The feelings won't last; the consequences of acting upon them will.

Immaculata001 · « **Reply #12 on:** July 18, 2014, 10:45:19 AM »

Quote from: Frances

Just an observation. Every Catholic/Protestant marriage with which I'm personally familiar has lost their children to the world. Its a very bad idea. Don't ruin your life on earth and lose your soul for eternity because of your "feelings" for another. The feelings won't last; the consequences of acting upon them will.

Every Catholic I know who married a Protestant no longer practices orthodox Catholicism, even when the Protestant spouse agreed to raise the children as Catholics and considered eventual conversion.

InfiniteFaith · « **Reply #13 on:** July 18, 2014, 05:28:59 PM »

Quote from: clare

Quote from: InfiniteFaith
... But then again, the Church allows it. The fact that the Church allows it makes me think that it is ok.

Erm, ahem... Dare I remind you that the Church also allows marriages that you strongly disapprove of?

Anyhow, the Church forbids marriage to non-Catholics as a rule, although it is not that uncommon for dispensations to be granted.

The non-Catholict has to agree that their children be raised Catholic. Best case scenario, the non-Catholic spouse converts to Catholicism eventually.

I gather that, before Vatican II, Catholics and non-Catholic couldn't have a nuptial Mass. (Correct me if I'm wrong...)

Dear Clare, Dolores, Judas Maccabeaus, Iggy, etc.,

Yes you are right. I wasn't thinking about that when I said that. I suppose that the Church allows for it because there is always the possibility that the protestant would convert.

-Infinite

Matthew · « **Reply #14 on:** July 18, 2014, 06:09:14 PM »

Quote from: InfiniteFaith

Dear Clare, Dolores, Judas Maccabeaus, Iggy, etc.,

What exactly do you mean by this?