Thank you all for your helpful thoughts and replies.
It's true, these folks are clueless. Not only in spiritual matters, but in this case, it appears it's going to be a very big wedding and our lack of presence and lack of a gift is not likely to be noticed .. particularly because we are not friend's of the bride.
As far as my "influence" with my H ... we've already been over this on another occasion. The last "wedding" was a high school buddy of my H's back in 2002 who was getting married the second time. We hassled about it over and over again because the friend was asking my H to be a groomsman for the second time! My H went to the local church and talked to a visiting priest who apparently told him that as long as his friend wasn't Catholic, it was okay to stand up for him again at his second wedding. It caused a lot of contention between us. But ultimately we went ... only at the wedding did my H find out that the bride was a MORMON and that an LDS Bishop was conducting the ceremony!! Argh. It was too late to back out .. but it was just ridiculous.
But my H has come along way since then, and helped in no small part due to that circuŠ¼stance itself.
As I said previously, we'd love to know actual practicing Catholics who were getting married with no previous marriages or divorces or whatever! But we know no one who matches that description.
Topic: Is Not Sending a "Wedding" Gift, Okay? (Read 1568 times)