Since you have my messages blocked, I'll send this openly:
Though we are as close to being arch-enemies as Catholics can be, I truly hope you are weathering the loss of your husband.
I don't think of you as an arch-enemy. We have strong differences of opinion, but that's not a huge deal. The loss of my husband has been a tragedy, but I have a lot of distractions to keep me from thinking too much about it. His first name was 'Mark,' btw. He was a very good man, for a pagan.