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Offline MaterDominici

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Giving or going to a baby shower for an unwed mother
« Reply #15 on: August 03, 2011, 05:17:38 PM »
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    • I think sending a gift after the baby is born would be most appropriate. I was actually going to recommend having a "baptismal party" rather than a baby shower, but I guess you might not be sure if that will actually happen.

    I'd add that you might choose the gift carefully so as to get a solid baby need rather than a parent "want". Basic necessities, for example, rather than a cute outfit which is more about the parents than the baby. There is a very fine line to be treaded between support and approval, but it is much easier for someone with a solid Catholic sense to know what is appropriate and what isn't.
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    « Reply #16 on: August 03, 2011, 06:47:32 PM »
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    • Quote from: CathMomof7
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    Is it a sin to give a shower, or go and bring gifts to un-wed mothers?


    I do not know.  Perhaps asking a priest would clarify the situation.

    I am faced wit a similar situation.  A co-worker of my husband co-habits with his "fiancee."  She is expecting.  There is a baby shower this weekend.  He asked about attendance.

    In my situation, these people are not Catholic nor remotely religious.  I do not wish to associate with other women who are likely to be there.  Nor do we support the lifestyle of the parents.

    They are not ashamed of anything.  They are proudly registered at several baby stores.  

    I am sending a large package of diapers and a book on ecological breastfeeding.


    That seems very reasonable to me.
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    Giving or going to a baby shower for an unwed mother
    « Reply #17 on: August 03, 2011, 06:49:28 PM »
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    • Especially given the fact that this is your granddaughter, it seems even more appropriate to give a gift and perhaps attend.
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    Giving or going to a baby shower for an unwed mother
    « Reply #18 on: August 03, 2011, 09:11:57 PM »
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    • In prevatII days, it was socially verboten!

    It was something to hide and not celebrate. There were numerous Catholic homes for unwed mothers. And there were many children whose grandparents we thought were their real mothers.

    There were plenty of adoptions and families willing to adopt and no Madonna-Jolie adoption faddish substitutions.

    Shame. Hide your head in shame. That was also said a lot prevatII.
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    Even us extremists are affected by the secular modernism.
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