Author Topic: trouble with family and faith (Read 2138 times)

Nadir · « **Reply #15 on:** November 23, 2012, 06:58:17 PM »

Quote from: primo0196

thx. this is how i feel inside and i wouldnt want to offend god or christ by full well knowingly going against my faith. at the same time i think im going to go speak with my priest so i can get some religious counseling on the matter. i may not attend this event but i still love my sister and i djont want to write her off yet.

Dear Primo,

Welcome to this traditional Cathoic forum! This will be very painful for you and will test your faith and your courage. But always remember while going through this Valley of Tears, that this is a test to see where you, and your sister, will spend Eternity. You will not be writing her off if you refuse to have anything to do with her public sin. Indeed you will offer her, maybe the only opportunity she may ever have, of seeing the error of her ways. I am sure that I can speak for others here in saying we will keep you in our prayers.

ladyslipper · « **Reply #16 on:** November 24, 2012, 03:52:00 PM »

Hello everyone. This is my first post on this website. Hope I am of help or support to someone. Over 23 years ago when I was first married I decided to deal with the subject of my husbands gαy brother. We had all met many times so I knew him and we got along great. But when I started raising babies I decided it was wrong for the brother in law to visit and bring his boy friend. My husband agreed but he could not call him and explain this so I ended up doing it. I told him he was welcome but he could not bring his partner. I explained the moral side to it and how I believed. I did not want my children to grow up and see my tolerance for that life style. He told me I was just like other family who reject him (but that was because the other brother in laws did not see him as manly, had nothing to do with his soul). He also said he would never speak to us again if I went though with this decision, and that is exactly what he did. We never spoke again, nor him to my husband. Too bad but I have no guilt and I can face my kids and stand strong on this issue.
My sister in law did not go to her sisters second wedding after she divorced. her family was really mad at her. My sister in law did not cave. End of story, they forgave and forgot and got along over time.
Stand by your convictions or you will feel really guilty when its over!

alaric · « **Reply #17 on:** November 25, 2012, 01:48:28 PM »

Quote from: ladyslipper

Hello everyone. This is my first post on this website. Hope I am of help or support to someone. Over 23 years ago when I was first married I decided to deal with the subject of my husbands gαy brother. We had all met many times so I knew him and we got along great. But when I started raising babies I decided it was wrong for the brother in law to visit and bring his boy friend. My husband agreed but he could not call him and explain this so I ended up doing it. I told him he was welcome but he could not bring his partner. I explained the moral side to it and how I believed. I did not want my children to grow up and see my tolerance for that life style. He told me I was just like other family who reject him (but that was because the other brother in laws did not see him as manly, had nothing to do with his soul). He also said he would never speak to us again if I went though with this decision, and that is exactly what he did. We never spoke again, nor him to my husband. Too bad but I have no guilt and I can face my kids and stand strong on this issue.
My sister in law did not go to her sisters second wedding after she divorced. her family was really mad at her. My sister in law did not cave. End of story, they forgave and forgot and got along over time.
Stand by your convictions or you will feel really guilty when its over!

Good for you ladyslipper and you are not only standing by your convictions but God's Law which so many today disregard as religious "intolerance". But God's natural ordained laws of the universe and nature never change, regardless if the cultures themselves become "progressive" and "tolerant", cultures and civilizations themsleves will become extinct and be long gone way before any of God's Laws can even remotley be challenged.

It's also good you stood strong for your children for you are their protector and teacher in this world put there by God to be the example for which they should aspire to be in this world, someday God will reward your good example in heaven. We need more women and mothers like you with integrity in this world, thank you and God bless your family.

Jacob III · « **Reply #18 on:** November 26, 2012, 03:51:04 PM »

Staying strong in our faith can sometimes cause others to see their errors. My cousin, who was baptized and confirmed in the Church, asked me to sign as witness the marriage application for her and her fiancé at the courthouse. They did not plan to have a Sacramental marriage. I was visibly excited about the engagement but then when she told me about their specific plans, I explained why I could/would not do this. She ended up changing her mind and had a Sacramental marriage and God blessed her with a daughter!