Some are virgins because they were not particularly attractive to men and perhaps likely would have fallen had they been approached by some attractive man's advances. Some who are virgins may not have been had their circuмstances been different; some who are not virgins may have been had their circuмstances been different.
I believe that the exalted virgins praised by the Church were so, not out of mere necessity (just because they were ugly and no one wanted them, for instance); but out of a pure,
a conscious choice to remain chaste. The merit is in the choice.
The sacrifice. That is the virtue of purity which is really praised by the Church and worthy of sainthood.
It is the same with men. For example, if a man remains faithful to his wife even though he has many opportunities to be with other women, that is truly heroic and should be praised. Not the same with a man who just happens
not to ever have such opportunity or options;
but if he actually did, he would surely commit adultery. There is no merit on that.
St. Jerome said something on this regard:
If you introduce old women, and soothsayers, and prophets, and vendors of jewels and silken clothing, you imperil her chastity; if you shut the door upon them, she is injured and fancies you suspect her. But what is the good of even a careful guardian, when an unchaste wife cannot be watched, and a chaste one ought not to be? For necessity is but a faithless keeper of chastity, and she alone really deserves to be called pure, who is free to sin if she chooses. If a woman be fair, she soon finds lovers; if she be ugly, it is easy to be wanton. It is difficult to guard what many long for. It is annoying to have what no one thinks worth possessing.
But the misery of having an ugly wife is less than that of watching a comely one. Nothing is safe, for which a whole people sighs and longs. One man entices with his figure, another with his brains, another with his wit, another with his open hand. Somehow, or sometime, the fortress is captured which is attacked on all sides.