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Let me give you a couple examples of my own personal development.

Initially I thought that I would never allow my girls to wear ANY makeup.  I considered it to be wanted by girls only for impure purposes.  I grew up with 3 brothers and was out of the house when my one young sister got older (she was 8 when I was gone).  And my mother never wore makeup ... not out of principle, but just because she never felt like it.  I have four daughters now, and both the older ones, when they hit puberty, developed acne (inherited through their Mom's side).  And I was shocked by the degree to which they were derided by their Traditional Catholic female friends.  They asked if they could wear some stuff to cover up, and of course I let them.  Nothing heavy, but just enough to make them feel not "repugnant".  Imagine if I had stuck to my guns, as some Traditional Catholic parents had done, and they spent years and years feeling "repulsive" to other people.  That would cause severe emotional and psychological scars for a girl.  So I came to the realization that there's nothing inherently wrong with a girl just wanting to feel pretty.  And I also realized that 99% of the time, it was in relation to their FEMALE peers, that they wanted to feel pretty, and not because they were trying to "ensnare" some boy.  So as long as I don't sense any impure motives, I let them wear some light makeup, just so they can feel pretty.  And I let them wear nice clothes (provided they're not in any way immodest) ... instead of imposing the "Little House on the Prairie" look that many Traditional Catholics require of their girls.

I don't know, man.  This seems a bit heartless.  More than even security, the deepest need people have, especially children growing up, is to feel loved and wanted.  And girls have the need more than boys.  What do you think it would do to a girl to be constantly told she's repulsive?  At some point, it would be easy for her to question whether anyone, including God, could love someone like her.