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« on: October 15, 2006, 04:50:03 PM »
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    • Someone was asking about CatholicMatch.com --

    I can say that CatholicMatch is a bona-fide Catholic dating site.

    That being said, there are a LOT of Novus Ordo (non-traditionally minded) Catholics on that site. When you sign up, you are asked to answer Yes/No to 7 questions -- "Do you believe in waiting until marriage?", "Do you believe in papal infallibility" and such.

    The scary thing is, even though all 7 questions are dogmas of the Catholic Faith, all too many people answer NO to one or more of them!

    Anyhow, you DO want to focus on what's most important in a spouse, and that is your faith. If you were an average worldling, I'd give you the standard dating advice: "Join groups that do activities you enjoy! If you like skating, go to the skating rink. If you like art, go to a museum!" HOWEVER -- that doesn't work today. You're NOT going to meet individuals with a similar (Catholic) philosophy to yours. You're just setting yourself up for disappointment. Mutual love of rock-climbing, art, or cooking will NOT hold a marriage together during all the crosses most married couples encounter sooner or later. If you aren't both Catholic, your marriage is a huge upstream battle with a 10% chance of long-term success.

    Therefore it's very important to either meet traditional Catholics in your area, or use a website like the one mentioned.

    As always, you need to get to know a person before you get emotionally invested, etc. But that's standard advice you hear from many quarters.

    I met my wife on CatholicMatch.com. There's no way a yankee from Illinois would have ever met a girl from south Texas without that website

    God bless,

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    « Reply #1 on: September 15, 2010, 10:03:54 AM »
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    •   I subscride there by help of a relative but have a question:
    How can I know if a member is a subcribed or a free one?
    And in case someone is a free member, how can you notify them or tell them anything? (it seems that they can't read any message, only receive them.)
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    « Reply #2 on: September 15, 2010, 09:15:40 PM »
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    • I remember that right after I got married, the sites started coming out for dating. I got curious about this, and decided to do some looking, and found very easily an SSPX singles site.

    http://www.sspxsingles.com/

    Also found this one:

    http://www.traditionalsinglecatholics.com/

    And this one:

    http://www.traditionalsingles.com/

    If you're still looking, check these ones out!
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    « Reply #3 on: September 15, 2010, 09:21:43 PM »
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    • All I can say is, if you're at one of these chapels full of clucking hens, don't say anything to anyone.

    Otherwise, they will try to blacken your reputation.

    Too many Pharisees in these chapels.

    They approve of all sorts of things for themselves and their own, but conspire to deny the opportunity to marry to those they don't like.
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    « Reply #4 on: September 15, 2010, 09:34:48 PM »
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    • ~*~*{{{{Telesphorus}}}}*~*~

    maybe some of those hens need a good plucking
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    « Reply #5 on: September 15, 2010, 10:50:36 PM »
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    •   What do you mean by "chapels"? Websites are chaples?
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    « Reply #6 on: September 16, 2010, 12:20:56 AM »
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    • Quote from: spouse of Jesus
     What do you mean by "chapels"? Websites are chaples?


    No, I mean I can understand why so many look for mates on websites and give up on chapels.

    because of the ruinous gossip, cattiness and peer pressure.
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    « Reply #7 on: September 16, 2010, 12:55:30 AM »
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    • Quote from: spouse of Jesus
     I subscride there by help of a relative but have a question:
    How can I know if a member is a subcribed or a free one?
    And in case someone is a free member, how can you notify them or tell them anything? (it seems that they can't read any message, only receive them.)


    I wish I could answer your quesiton, Spouse, but I used that site for all of 1 month and that was 6 years ago! I'm sure they've changed a thing or two since then. : )
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    « Reply #8 on: September 16, 2010, 01:01:17 AM »
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    • Quote from: parentsfortruth
    I remember that right after I got married, the sites started coming out for dating. I got curious about this, and decided to do some looking, and found very easily an SSPX singles site.

    http://www.sspxsingles.com/

    Also found this one:

    http://www.traditionalsinglecatholics.com/

    And this one:

    http://www.traditionalsingles.com/

    If you're still looking, check these ones out!


    I'm sure those sites are handy, but I would recommend to any men using these sites not to limit yourself quite that much. I seem to fit in the Trad world just fine, but prior to meeting Matthew on CatholicMatch, I didn't know "Traditional Catholics" even existed. In fact, my opening message to him was simply to ask what SSPX stood for.

    I say "men" primarily because a woman with any natural sense left will be inclined to follow a man she wishes to marry. I don't know that I would give the same advice to a young woman.
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    « Reply #9 on: September 16, 2010, 04:27:48 AM »
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    • Quote from: Matthew
    Someone was asking about CatholicMatch.com --

    I can say that CatholicMatch is a bona-fide Catholic dating site.

    That being said, there are a LOT of Novus Ordo (non-traditionally minded) Catholics on that site. When you sign up, you are asked to answer Yes/No to 7 questions -- "Do you believe in waiting until marriage?", "Do you believe in papal infallibility" and such.

    The scary thing is, even though all 7 questions are dogmas of the Catholic Faith, all too many people answer NO to one or more of them!

    Anyhow, you DO want to focus on what's most important in a spouse, and that is your faith. If you were an average worldling, I'd give you the standard dating advice: "Join groups that do activities you enjoy! If you like skating, go to the skating rink. If you like art, go to a museum!" HOWEVER -- that doesn't work today. You're NOT going to meet individuals with a similar (Catholic) philosophy to yours. You're just setting yourself up for disappointment. Mutual love of rock-climbing, art, or cooking will NOT hold a marriage together during all the crosses most married couples encounter sooner or later. If you aren't both Catholic, your marriage is a huge upstream battle with a 10% chance of long-term success.

    Therefore it's very important to either meet traditional Catholics in your area, or use a website like the one mentioned.

    As always, you need to get to know a person before you get emotionally invested, etc. But that's standard advice you hear from many quarters.

    I met my wife on CatholicMatch.com. There's no way a yankee from Illinois would have ever met a girl from south Texas without that website

    God bless,

    Matthew


    Agreed... I must admit I would have ended meeting my future hubby there if I pursued our friendship... He's an SSPX adherent, by the way...
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    « Reply #10 on: September 16, 2010, 04:52:43 AM »
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    • Quote from: JoanScholastica
    Agreed... I must admit I would have ended meeting my future hubby there if I pursued our friendship... He's an SSPX adherent, by the way...


    Are you engaged Joan?

    I thought you were considering taking vows to be a sister or religious?
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    « Reply #11 on: September 16, 2010, 04:55:53 AM »
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    • C'mmon, Telesphorus, I'm not!

    It was a long time ago... you must re read my post... I said I ended our friendship when he wanted to marry me...
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    « Reply #12 on: September 16, 2010, 04:59:18 AM »
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    • Quote from: JoanScholastica
    C'mmon, Telesphorus, I'm not!

    It was a long time ago... you must re read my post... I said I ended our friendship when he wanted to marry me...


    Some of these society girls are heart breakers.
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    « Reply #13 on: September 16, 2010, 06:39:02 PM »
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    • Blame it on the SSPX... they're very pious and contagious!  :incense:
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