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Offline rosarytrad

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Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
« Reply #15 on: July 07, 2023, 11:02:51 AM »
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  • What is it that attracts them?
    Drolo, you have asked the age-old question here. Men don't know, and women don't either. Lol.

    I'm tempted to red pill you, but I don't want to discourage you. Take care of yourself mentally,  physically,  financially, and, most important, spiritually. Pray to Our Mother to guide you, and everything will work out. All will be well, my friend.

    I wish you the best, man. If God's will is for you to start a family, He will bring you and your wife together.

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    Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
    « Reply #16 on: July 07, 2023, 12:16:37 PM »
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  • Wow this thread has some real gems in it already. Carry on!
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    Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
    « Reply #17 on: July 07, 2023, 12:17:06 PM »
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  • Drolo asked what attracts a good woman. 

    I'm an old bag, and not in the running for anything but a happy death; yet I will answer, and negatively. 

    What turns me off the most with men is cowardice and weakness of any kind. 

    Examples of cowardice and weakness:

    Neglect of duties and obligations of state.

    Heathenish self indulgence, especially of the carnal and gluttonous kind; and using others to convenience himself.

    Laziness, especially letting others do for him what he should be doing for himself. 

    Bad or unattractive habits that show an inability to practice temperance and self-denial.

    Un-handiness. I would never look for college degrees in a man I respected, but I would find abilities and skills. I respect men that can fix things, and that, though not formally educated, have educated themselves. I'd much rather be married to a thinking plumber than to a human respecting executive. 

    Human respect of any kind. 

    Predominance of passion in the personality and in the decisions he makes, especially anger, self-loathing, and blaming others. 

    Lack of a religion-induced nobility of ideals and conduct. 


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    Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
    « Reply #18 on: July 07, 2023, 02:44:43 PM »
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  • Then I would start right where you are.
    What communications do you have with these young single woman? Have you made approaches to any of them?
    So little, because I didn't know what to say. I will try what Seraphina said, although there isn't a bar very close and I 'm should'n't  to follow people on the street, I would seem like a stalker. I'll try to talk to someone at the exit with Seraphina tips to see what happens.

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    Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
    « Reply #19 on: July 07, 2023, 02:46:39 PM »
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  • Forgive me for not offering an actual answer to your question, but have you seriously considered the religious or priestly vocation?
    Honestly, I don't see myself as a priest and I don't have any sign of that is my vocation.

    Monk? Maybe, I don't know.


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    Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
    « Reply #20 on: July 07, 2023, 02:51:56 PM »
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  • Be very careful about getting into a marriage.  The statistics are very bad for marriages lasting very long these days, and divorce especially with kids is something you never want to go through I can assure you that. 

    Though, if I were looking for a Catholic to marry, I wouldn't limit myself to just traditional Catholic circles.  There are many females in the Novus Ordo who are willing to attend TLM, and become traditional Catholic with some prompting and education.  I wouldn't be too pushy about Francis not being pope, I would just make it clear that's what I believe based on objective reality, but I can't force that believe on anyone else.  I would focus on looking for females that have a good upbringing, preferably raised not Europe or the US or at least not exclusively raised in either of those places.  Hispanic women, Philipino women, in alot of cases have these good upbringings/foundation.  Obviously, you want to make sure you have your house in order, good career or at least a good career path so you can support a family. 
    Yes, and if she wants to ruin your life, she can in Spain thanks to feminist laws in which they can falsely denounce you, and, unless it's obvious that it was a false denounce, you're screwed and you carry the stigma forever. I know well what corrupt system I live in. But obviously the idea is to avoid the class of women who would do that.

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    Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
    « Reply #21 on: July 07, 2023, 03:07:27 PM »
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  • The old-fashioned way is to start with the other people (all trad Catholic, if possible) you know well and trust enough to introduce you their cousin, schoolmate's sister, neighbor's niece, and so on. Compared to the freelance strategy, this approach needs to be done with even more sincerity and tact towards the girl and also the one who introduced you to her.
    Yes, but I don't know Catholic trads in person outside of the Church that I go. My family stopped being Catholic 2 generations ago. They're not even Novus Ordo.

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    Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
    « Reply #22 on: July 07, 2023, 10:02:10 PM »
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  • Isn't there some kind of event on which faithful from the all the SSPX chapels of the country get together? Like some kind of seminar or conference? We get one of these every year here in Brazil.

    If you could get to this kind of event, this could be a good oportunity. We men are usually less shy with women we know we won't be seeing every week or so.

    You talk some rubbish to a girl and try to estabilish some contact. If she doesn't respond well, you won't feel that bad, since you are probably not going to see her again so soon.

    The basic approach with women is to say some rubbish for five minutes and then ask for her phone number. If she likes you, she will give her number. If she doesn't, she will make a lame excuse.

    You don't have to try to hide that you are interested in her. In fact, you cannot say it explicitly, but you will want her to know that you are interested in her. It should be obvious.

    Once you get her number, you call her after a week or so and ask her if she wants to have a coffee with you. If she likes you, chances are she will accept.

    Another, more traditional approach would be talking to her father, if he is around.

    You could simply and honestly say that you are looking for a wife and ask if he could introduce you to his daughter. It will help if you have a good job and have nice clothes and a nice car. You have to look like you are worth ($$$) something, since no father will want his daughter to live through a difficult financial situation.


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    Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
    « Reply #23 on: July 08, 2023, 03:36:44 AM »
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  • I'm still looking myself.

    Two suggestions:

    Us single men need to band together and pool resources.

    And secondly, fathers of families should get out here and talk to us. With suggestions of their daughters. Developing friendships.

    Do they really want 20 something daughters hanging around the house for too long?

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    Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
    « Reply #24 on: July 08, 2023, 04:32:10 AM »
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  • So little, because I didn't know what to say. I will try what Seraphina said, although there isn't a bar very close and I 'm should'n't  to follow people on the street, I would seem like a stalker. I'll try to talk to someone at the exit with Seraphina tips to see what happens.
    Tips were not intended for use at a bar!  At least not a bar in the American sense!  Maybe you have pubs that are mainly places to socialize, not to get plastered and find a hook-up for the night?  I was thinking to use the tips in a family friendly setting, like after Mass or at a community picnic in the park or a low-key sporting event.  

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    Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
    « Reply #25 on: July 08, 2023, 07:37:22 PM »
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  • For men pondering how to go about finding a Catholic wife, it might mean going where they are.  Like this TIA conference

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    Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
    « Reply #26 on: July 08, 2023, 08:03:50 PM »
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  • She enjoys being at home and doing homey things, and enjoys solitude and her own company. Being out in the world, rather than pull and attract her, is a bit discomfiting to her. When she's out there for any reason, she's glad to get back home.


    This may get many thumbs downs, but when I am around young trad women, if I see that they have garish and long fingernails from a nail parlor, I lose respect for them. 
    Great that you pointed that out and people seemed to agree. Little confidence that I owned I always thought that being homey was my down side, that I'm not "normal" not liking going out too much and I don't "put myself out there".
    Also I always get disgusted frankly by those fingernails. I don't understand why people would like that. Above looking really weird, it's highly inconvenient for doing any sort of housework. Perhaps it's a sign for them not doing much at home too.
    Having a highly melancholic nature I can't say I'm always happy being single, but I'm praying to accept whatever comes. Life is full of struggles and I believe it's the same for everyone.
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    Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
    « Reply #27 on: July 09, 2023, 01:59:18 AM »
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  • Bad advice.  Novus Ordo women may attend the TLM but they hardly ever become a true Trad.  A typical novus ordo person (man or woman) doesn't believe in such things as (the true Fatima message, infiltration in the Church, evilness of the new mass, the deliberate protestantization of the Church, etc).  If someone doesn't understand "why" Traditionalism exists, then no matter how much they love the TLM, eventually you will have problems in your marriage because your worldviews are too different.

    One of our main duties is to fellow Catholics who are in the NO because they don't know any better.  There are many, many, people like that, including females looking for marriage and family.  So, in my opinion if I were looking for a wife I would not restrict myself a traditional chapel.  Obviously, if he happens to end up courting a NO female who will not attend TLM and is not open to tradition, then yeah that would be a reason to break it off.  

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    Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
    « Reply #28 on: July 09, 2023, 02:01:48 AM »
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  • Yes, and if she wants to ruin your life, she can in Spain thanks to feminist laws in which they can falsely denounce you, and, unless it's obvious that it was a false denounce, you're screwed and you carry the stigma forever. I know well what corrupt system I live in. But obviously the idea is to avoid the class of women who would do that.

    When I say Hispanics woman, I'm really referring to more like Mexico, Central, South America, no actual Spaniards.

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    Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
    « Reply #29 on: July 09, 2023, 02:28:25 PM »
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  • In my Church there are very few single girls.

    Where should I search?

    Tips to succeed with catholic trad girls?

    What is it that attracts them?

    How should do I court a catholic trad girl

    Tips to avoid "problematic" girls? like promiscuous girls or that break the marriage when there are problems instead of solving them. This is very common today in the West, for example Spain has a divorce rate of 86%, when there is a serious problem or just bored people get divorced. I also don't want the marriage to become a continuous combat.

    I'm not good at picking up on people's true intentions.

    I have no flirting experience and I don't know what to talk to a girl about to keep her interested.

    Any help is welcome.

    God Bless.
    Do you offer anything that would attract a woman?