Is it ok to have an ideal in contrast with the whole society and let it affect your choice in marriage?
 If the whole society is in a state of rebellion many idealist youths willingly allow their aims to control their lives, including the choice of a spouse.
  The aim that is to control your choice can happen because of religion, atheism, nationalistic feelings, feminism etc. like:
1-a woman is so dedicated to war and soldiers that she is ready to marry a war-handicap.
2-a man is such a liberal that just to oppose traditions he seeks a bossy career woman who hates children.
3-a woman so loves feminism that she is ready to marry anyone (no matter whom!) who lets her have certain freedoms.
4-a faithful person who is willing to marry anyone who lets him/her practice the faith.
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  The above examples are very different, but what they all have in common is that you may need to sacrifice many things that are normally needed in a marriage. Also you may have to tolerate many undesirable traits in your future spouse simply because very few people match your ideals.
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  It seems that being different is going to be the norm. Many young people are proud of the way their ideals affects their choices and how they are brave enough to make big sacrifices for what they think is right.

What ServantOfTheAlmighty said. I definitely do not recommend marrying someone who is not a Traditional Catholic.

It may not apply, but sometimes you get the impression that certain people are Catholic partly as a kind of rebellion against an anti-Catholic society.  Not that they don't truly believe, but part of what excites them about the religion is about being heroes and fighting the forces of evil -- which of course leads to pride since we aren't heroes, just sinners.  

It's almost like they have mixed Catholicism with punk-rock defiance, like being Catholic is the last way that we can really stick it to the man ( it always has been the only real way to stick it to the "man," meaning to be against the world, but I digress ).  I was like this, so I know what I'm talking about.

Examples of what I mean are those trads who like me at one time are driven by self-righteous anger and a sense of superiority.  When they come on the site I can spot them right away.  I feel like an old seasoned war veteran with scars all over his face and body who sees these kids leap onto the battlefield chasing fame and glory, and just shakes his head at their youthful imprudence and misguided zeal.  Yet I've only been Catholic two years!

I always say, lust and heresy finished off the most Catholics, but pride is the destroyer of the remnant.  To turn the ship around, we must recognize that we aren't called because we're anything special, but purely as an act of mercy that we can never understand, and that we haven't earned.

What does this have to do with your post, spouse?  Just that I'm talking about a form of exaggerated and therefore disfigured Catholic idealism that could be very volatile in a marriage, if both spouses are like this.  Too many today are obsessed with the evil in the world without really understanding the evil in themselves.