The single life is rarely discussed by Priests who discourse in sermons and spiritual conferences upon the subject of vocations. For one contemplating what direction of life to take, it is usually either to be espoused unto another Catholic, or enter the Religious life, or (if he is a man) to enter Sacred Orders. The single life is almost always set aside as the subject of private discussion between a Spiritual Director and an individual Catholic that finds himself in circuмstances unfavorable to either marriage or the Religious or Sacred Orders. The reasons for this are sound, because the Sacred Matrimony, the Religious life and Sacred Orders ought to be encouraged, according to the dispositions of the individual Catholic and the sound direction of a good [Canonically fit and trained] Father Confessor.
The questions I have are, 1) whether the single life can be contemplated as a legitimate choice for a young person who may have no impediments that forbid such a one to be married or join the Religious life (or, for men, Sacred Orders), and ought therefore to be presented a possible choice of vocation for youngsters; 2) whether the single life may be a vocation only for those who are unable to marry, or enter the Religious life or Sacred Orders; and finally 3) whether it can be said that the single life is not a vocation at all but a certain deficiency or failure, though not necessarily implying fault on the part of the individual person.
I would like your thoughts on the matter.
NOTE: The "single life" discussed here is not the one that world confuses for a life of unrestrained and egocentric licentiousness and apathy, but a life that would absolutely entail perpetual chastity (not necessarily by virtue of a vow, though certainly by virtue of natural law and the Baptismal vows we all have made), and the cultivation of the spiritual life according to the dispositions of each individual, the inspirations of holy grace, and the counsel and tutelage of a good Father Confessor.