I have the impression here at CathInfo that men do not like it when women volunteer any advice whatsoever.
There is a difference between sharing personal experiences and news stories, and asking questions and responding to questions versus giving advice.
So here, again, are you being charitable, offering me advice trying to help me, as I believe most people of good will on CI do, or are you being officious, as you believe?
Can't have your cake and eat it, too.