Well, my impression has been that women get their sense of beauty from other women more than they do from men. (They do not trust other women. Other women are their competitors. If they do not attract men, they are not pretty. ) When they dress a certain way, most of the time they're trying to be noticed by other women rather than men (What profit comes from attracting other women? By attracting men they become empowered, they can marry money, they can be successful). If they adopt certain fashions, it's almost always because they see other women wearing these things (True, and they see those women attracting men with those fashions so they copy them and even go further) . Very few women truly understand the effect that they way they dress, and look, and behave can have on men. (They know exactly the effect, their purpose is precisely to attract men. What they do not know is that a man can be attracted by anything with a pulse as long as it is easy)
And they value the opinions of their peers much more than they do those of their parents (If the parents are naïve idiots). Thus the teenage rebellion to which Fanny referred (This is where parents have to be on their toes). They hear their parents saying one thing and then see their friends doing another (If you allow your children to have friends who live a life different than what you know to be right, then you are just a living in a fort with three walls). They begin to resent the fact that they can't be like everyone else (if you teach them that everyone else is insane, like girls that wear bikinis in public but do not go around in their underwear in public. Those people are insane, and your children with see it.) . Boys care a lot less for being like all the other boys, but girls are absolutely driven by it.
It's even worse when these peers are Traditional Catholics. I didn't let my daughters listen to most modern pop music. When they asked about Katie Perry, I explained that she was bad and that they shouldn't listen to her. And their response was that even their Traditional Catholic friends listen to her music . So now we're more Traditional than even Traditional Catholics, they wonder? (my 16 year old does not know who Katie Perry is, so we are more "traditional than even those that are more traditional".) This is a hard battle for parents these days.
Because I'm sensitive to building up too much resentment against Traditional Catholicism and the Church, and do make some concessions that I am not perfectly happy about ... because I know how much it bothers the girls that we're "weird" and not like everyone else. Plus, I think that it's important that they don't develop a "forbidden fruit" mentality and desire to taste the fruit in an uncontrolled environment. ( I've been there in my youth in the 1960's with my parents, and I do not believe in the resentment or concessions for resentment b.s. They fooled my parents with that b.s. in the 60's because it came out of nowhere. I've been there already. My children and I have a very close relationship, they all have a great sense of humor, and when there is something wrong, I see it and fix it right away so we can all go back to be our own happy carefree selves. Because of the age difference between my wife and I, I should be the father of my wife and the grandfather of my children, in fact, I could be your father. I've been there and done that. The devil can get me too, but I have seen it all before, he'd have to come with something new "out of nowhere". Trads today are living 1965 all over again, and I've been there and done that.)
My response in red above. Raising children to go to heaven is like being a field marshal in war, you have to constantly be adjusting everything as the bullets fly and the bombs fall. One can't ever sit back and take a coffee break.