I am of the opinion that sleep training (cry-it-out) could be used if the mom or anyone is so sleep-deprived that it's affecting their ability to function. But generally, babies have "sleep regressions" so I don't know if training a baby to sleep through the night is going to work unless you rely on cry-it-out. We don't have soundproof walls at the moment so when we did try it, it was resulting in less sleep. It's also quite painful hearing your baby screaming to the point when you think they're going to vomit. What did work for us, was cosleeping. Back then, houses were much smaller so you couldn't just put the baby in its own nursery room, shut the door, and walk away. In our current living situation (our house is currently being renovated) the baby had to sleep in the crib with us so a separate room for her was not possible.
Our baby has never taken a pacifier and even if she had one, she wouldn't like it. For every nap and night sleep, I nurse her to sleep. Whenever she cries in the middle of the night, I'll let her fuss and sometimes she'll go back to sleep but most of the time I nurse her to sleep and it only takes a few minutes. We all get better sleep. I recommend getting a co-sleeper bassinet, put the baby in the bed with you (with rails or put the bed against the wall), or do a side-crib (put the crib up against the bed with the railing removed).
Recently, a few months ago, she has gotten bigger and doesn't fit in our queen bed. She sleeps in between my husband and I. I used to think that people who coslept with their babies were weird and kind of reckless, but I was at the point of sleep deprivation that I had to do something. It turned out that she just wanted to near us and that warmth of my arm around her head gave her the ability to fall back asleep without even having to nurse because she knew she was safe. But, when your almost 14-month-old is kicking and thrashing in the middle of the night and every creek in the bed wakes her up, I knew I had to do something.
A week or two ago, I decided to put her in the playpen and lay down with her (on a twin mattress) and nurse her to sleep or just be near her until she falls asleep. And, then I could go to sleep in our master bedroom. She still cries but she sleeps much better and has more space. I don't want to night wean her yet but it'll be a gradual process. I do miss my sleep and it's been more than a year of bad sleep. It's funny but I see these toddlers with pacifiers in their mouths and society can't connect breastfeeding with that, like it's a stigma. Like what did people do before pacifiers were invented? Probably coslept on a floor bed until the next baby came, I donno.
I'm also a first-time mom and I heard that all babies are different, only speaking from personal experience. I don't expect my future babies to be the same and might have to innovate ways for different sleeping arrangements.