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Traditional Catholic Faith => Catholic Living in the Modern World => Topic started by: Todd The Trad on June 06, 2022, 01:57:38 PM
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I am trying to live a traditional catholic life the best I can. I understand we are all called to a certain vocation. Here's the issue. Before I converted I had a daughter with a girl. She is a drug addict and hasn't been around me or my daughter in years. I have full custody. I am a single father of 29 yrs old. I don't think a single parent is traditionally a vocation. Any advice or thoughts?
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Being a father is a vocation. Be the best one you can.
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We cannot help the mistakes we made before converting to the Faith. God always works around our sins; He really has no choice. He still permits us to choose; we are not on strings. He does not force our liberty, but continues to pursue us, as we know it through situations and such. Being a father is a vocation, just in a different way according to circuмstance. Perhaps God will provide a wife in the future who will help teach and raise your daughter. I have come across spouses that had children out of wedlock and soon married another, if not the one they had the child with.
Your daughter is fortunate to have a traditional Catholic father, and so of course give her your loving guidance, since He gave you this child to your care. Best wishes
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We cannot help the mistakes we made before converting to the Faith.
I think this is wrong.
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I think this is wrong.
Are we to wallow in our past sins then? Of course not. If we act in such a way, then we do not necessarily believe our sins are forgiven when having confessed them. This is what I was speaking about when I mentioned “our mistakes are in the past and we cannot help from having made them.” The devil will only tempt us if we don’t. Besides, some people do not come to the know the Truth until after they convert. This helps them to understand what mortal sins were. Look at St. Augustine and Mary Magdalene. We all can admit we wish we could take back things we have said and done, but it is now in the past. We must move forward.
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I think this is wrong.
Well then, Epiphany- start casting stones.
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Are we to wallow in our past sins then? Of course not. If we act in such a way, then we do not necessarily believe our sins are forgiven when having confessed them. This is what I was speaking about when I mentioned “our mistakes are in the past and we cannot help from having made them.” The devil will only tempt us if we don’t. Besides, some people do not come to the know the Truth until after they convert. This helps them to understand what mortal sins were. Look at St. Augustine and Mary Magdalene. We all can admit we wish we could take back things we have said and done, but it is now in the past. We must move forward.
I should have been more clear.
"We cannot help the mistakes we made before converting to the Faith."
I think it is a wrong statement because I don't think it matters whether we commit the sins before or after converting to the Faith. Once confessed, we should put all sins in the past.
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I should have been more clear.
"We cannot help the mistakes we made before converting to the Faith."
I think it is a wrong statement because I don't think it matters whether we commit the sins before or after converting to the Faith. Once confessed, we should put all sins in the past.
That's true, but, we still suffer the effects of those same sins we made which is what Christo Rege appears to mean.
I have my own burdens to bear due to my past sins, as many converts do.
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Your daughter is fortunate to have a traditional Catholic father, and so of course give her your loving guidance, since He gave you this child to your care. Best wishes
I agree with this. I will also think it'll be the best to marry a traditional woman so that you have someone that help you take care of your daughter. If that can't be done any sooner, I will suggest have her spend more time with her godmother so that she can learn from a catholic woman role model that would help shaping her in a whole.
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I am trying to live a traditional catholic life the best I can. I understand we are all called to a certain vocation. Here's the issue. Before I converted I had a daughter with a girl. She is a drug addict and hasn't been around me or my daughter in years. I have full custody. I am a single father of 29 yrs old. I don't think a single parent is traditionally a vocation. Any advice or thoughts?
For all practical purposes, I am a single father. (I am in a presumably valid marriage, but my son lives with me full-time and I homeschool him.)
Self-serving though it may be, I normally don't do uncritical, blind allegiance to anyone, but where other single fathers are concerned, I come pretty close to bestowing that allegiance. Our society just makes the assumption that the mother is always the driving force in the life of any child (as well as the boss of home, hearth, and bank account), to the exclusion of the father, but that is not universally true.
As far as getting married, I hate to say it, but traditional Catholic women, without deeply seated personality problems (which explains a lot of lifelong singlehood among otherwise seemingly eligible women), who would be willing to raise another living woman's child, are rare as unicorns. Even if my marriage were invalid, or if my wife were to die, I'd hold out very little hope. But anything can happen.
Be assured of a special place in my daily prayers.