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Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum for Courtship of members?

Yes, it would help for young people who don't have better ways to meet other traditional Catholics.
Yes, but please make it visible for "members only".
No, the idea is nice but completely impractical.
No, it would be a disaster.
Maybe...   Maybe not... I am not sure either way...
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Offline epiphany

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Re: Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum on courtship for members?
« Reply #15 on: July 19, 2022, 04:25:41 PM »
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    • Quote from: Lois Einhorn on July 19, 2022, 04:22:10 PM
    You're missing the forest for the trees. This site attracts a certain type of Catholic - those who are, usually, serious about their Faith and tradition or eager to learn about it, if they're new converts or finally snapping out of the Novus Ordo spell. The other "Catholic" courtship sites attract dubious prospects.
    I suspect a new Catholic courtship site will, as well.
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    Re: Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum on courtship for members?
    « Reply #16 on: July 19, 2022, 04:29:06 PM »
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    • Quote from: epiphany on July 19, 2022, 04:25:41 PM
    I suspect a new Catholic courtship site will, as well.
    Red herring fallacy.

    Starting a courtship subforum on this existing site is not starting a new site. The new subforum won't overshaddow the forum. If people don't like the new subforum, then don't go to it. People who say, "long distance relationships never work" are apparently ignorant of the fact that Matthew (owner of this forum) met his wife essentially the same way as a new Catholic courtship subforum could allow others here. 
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    Re: Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum on courtship for members?
    « Reply #17 on: July 19, 2022, 04:30:59 PM »
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    • Quote from: Lois Einhorn on July 19, 2022, 04:29:06 PM
    Quote from: Lois Einhorn 7/19/2022, 4:29:06 PM
    Red herring fallacy.

    Starting a courtship subforum on this existing site is not starting a new site. The new subforum won't overshaddow the forum. If people don't like the new subforum, then don't go to it. 

    I suspect a new Catholic courtship subforum on this site will attract dubious prospects, as well.

    Why are you afraid of a trad YAG group, in person meeting?
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    Re: Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum on courtship for members?
    « Reply #18 on: July 19, 2022, 04:34:46 PM »
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    • Quote from: epiphany on July 19, 2022, 04:30:59 PM
    I suspect a new Catholic courtship subforum on this site will attract dubious prospects, as well.
    Learn some critical thinking. This site attracts those who are interested in tradition of the Catholic Faith and who want to converse with others steeped in the Faith. The courtship subforum will be for "members only", which means it will only be visible through membership. People who "google" Catholic "dating" sites won't get a result from CI because it will only be visible to members. So anyone who has a desire to use the subforum, their initial interest in the forum as a whole was driven by their quest to deepen or gain more understanding of their Catholic Faith or converse with others in the Faith, not to find courtship.

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    Why are you afraid of a trad YAG group, in person meeting?
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    Re: Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum on courtship for members?
    « Reply #19 on: July 19, 2022, 04:38:40 PM »
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    • Quote from: Lois Einhorn on July 19, 2022, 04:34:46 PM
    Learn some critical thinking. This site attracts those who are interested in tradition of the Catholic Faith and who want to converse with others steeped in the Faith. The courtship subforum will be for "members only", which means it will only be visible through membership. People who "google" Catholic "dating" sites won't get a result from CI because it will only be visible to members.
    Loaded question fallacy.
    This site also clearly attracts dubious people.
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    Re: Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum on courtship for members?
    « Reply #20 on: July 19, 2022, 04:44:32 PM »
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    • Quote from: epiphany on July 19, 2022, 03:26:10 PM
    Why couldn't hansel or AMDGJMJ create a trad YAG get together once or twice a year ONLY allowing the beliefs you mentioned?
    I think letting potential couples hash these issues out is better than events being organized around opinions other than the existence of a crisis and the need for Catholic families. Adhering to whatever theological opinions (looking at dogmatic non una-cuŠ¼ in particular) shouldn't be the issue but rather adhering to existing dogma. I was making a tongue in cheek observation that nearly no one from these forums can attend YAG. I am probably one of the most moderate sedeprivationists on the forum and I would not be able to attend (I am married, for the record).


    I fully support AMDGJMJ's idea, for the record. I am merely voicing concern with YAG and why there needs to be alternatives.
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    Re: Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum on courtship for members?
    « Reply #21 on: July 19, 2022, 04:49:33 PM »
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    • Quote from: epiphany on July 19, 2022, 04:38:40 PM
    This site also clearly attracts dubious people.
    If it didn't already, it more likely would if it incorporated a singles subforum. Occasions of sin and of disaster would be virtually certain.

    Go to a chapel, meet eligible members of the opposite sex, get to know their families and friends.
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    Re: Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum on courtship for members?
    « Reply #22 on: July 19, 2022, 04:50:11 PM »
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    • I'm not opposed to a sub-forum but it might be easier to simply have an icon or text next to each member's name that would indicate if they are open to courting. If one member is interested in another then they could PM.

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    Re: Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum on courtship for members?
    « Reply #23 on: July 19, 2022, 05:32:12 PM »
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    • Quote from: Emile on July 19, 2022, 04:50:11 PM
    I'm not opposed to a sub-forum but it might be easier to simply have an icon or text next to each member's name that would indicate if they are open to courting. If one member is interested in another then they could PM.


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    This. It can be a vocation status that displays under the avatar. 
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    Re: Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum on courtship for members?
    « Reply #24 on: July 19, 2022, 05:49:06 PM »
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    • I have a feeling that most people against the idea are the ones already married :facepalm:
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    Re: Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum on courtship for members?
    « Reply #25 on: July 19, 2022, 05:55:43 PM »
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    • Isn't this part of the purpose of the Men only and Women only forums?
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    Re: Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum on courtship for members?
    « Reply #26 on: July 19, 2022, 06:18:29 PM »
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    • Quote from: DigitalLogos on July 19, 2022, 05:55:43 PM
    Isn't this part of the purpose of the Men only and Women only forums?
    I think the idea is for the men and women to talk to each other, not to people of the same sex.

    Bit distracted today, Buddy? :cowboy:
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    Re: Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum on courtship for members?
    « Reply #27 on: July 19, 2022, 06:32:22 PM »
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    • Quote from: Philothea3 on July 19, 2022, 08:41:30 AM
    And most users here are from the US I assumed so it wouldn't be a problem either way.
    That would not last for long!
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    Re: Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum on courtship for members?
    « Reply #28 on: July 19, 2022, 06:58:47 PM »
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    • Quote from: Emile on July 19, 2022, 06:18:29 PM
    I think the idea is for the men and women to talk to each other, not to people of the same sex.

    Bit distracted today, Buddy? :cowboy:
    :facepalm:

    Yes, and very, very tired from packing, cleaning and prepping the house for sale lol.
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    Re: Should we ask Matthew about making a sub-forum on courtship for members?
    « Reply #29 on: July 19, 2022, 07:10:03 PM »
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    • Quote from: DigitalLogos on July 19, 2022, 06:58:47 PM
    :facepalm:

    Yes, and very, very tired from packing, cleaning and prepping the house for sale lol.
    Time for a rest my friend.....

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