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Re: Sexless marriages and very small families
« Reply #95 on: January 25, 2019, 12:31:03 PM »
I am not afraid of the idea of marriage. There is nothing I would like more in this world than to have a decent wife. However I know this is not likely to happen for me. So I am alone. But I thought the 12-36 times a year number was very interesting. I have a skewed perspective about sex because I was never married but had two long-term sɛҳuąƖ relationships with women between the ages of 21 and 25 (I converted at the age of 26) and we had more sex than greg's number. A lot more. Perhaps both of my girlfriends were nymphomaniacs or maybe all young people are like that. People often say that in marriages the amount of sex declines drastically with time and often after a while married couples have no sex at all. I heard one man tell an old parable about sex and marriage. Imagine you are married. For the first year of your marriage you put a jelly-bean in a jar after every time you have sex. And after the first year of your marriage you take a jelly bean out of the same jar after every time you have sex. Your jar of jelly beans, no matter how long you are married, will never be emptied
At 21 to 26 people have the drive and the time.  It is all novel and exciting.  Most people at that age coukd have sex every other day.
I very much doubt that many 70 year old married couples are at it 3 times a week.
The jokes are funny and make people laugh because people can relate to them.  If most of the audience was having sex far more then they wouldnt laugh.
At 13- 21 I ran 30 to 100 miles per week.  And ran 2.25:17 for the marathon and sub 30min for 10k on track.  Now 30 years later I rarely run at all.  Some people still run after all those years, most don't.
People are liars too; remember that.  Lots of people lie to themselves.  They think of their best month and multiply it by 12.

Re: Sexless marriages and very small families
« Reply #96 on: January 30, 2019, 03:08:40 AM »
As a woman I think that your desire for intimacy is naturally and rightly related to your fertility, your menstrual cycle  and where you are in the cycle of trying - pregnancy - nursing and trying.  

I married at 26 and was very desperate for a baby. But as a nursing mother with young children clearly things are very different.  


Re: Sexless marriages and very small families
« Reply #97 on: January 30, 2019, 01:10:10 PM »

Of course there is the very rare exception of seeking sainthood with companionship.

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St. Cunigunde was one of eleven children born to Siegfried I of Luxembourg (922 – 15 August 998) and Hedwig of Nordgau (c. 935 – 992). She was a seventh-generation descendant of Charlemagne. She married St. King Henry in 999.[2] It is said that she had long wanted to be a nun,[3] and that her marriage to St. Henry II was a spiritual one (also called a "white marriage"); that is, they married for companionship alone, and by mutual agreement did not consummate their relationship. It has been claimed that Cunigunde made a vow of virginity with Henry's consent prior to their marriage.

Re: Sexless marriages and very small families
« Reply #98 on: February 10, 2019, 02:28:02 AM »
...large, usually poor, young Trad families around them, who can only manage to donate $20/week to the collection, and little of their free time, because they are busy raising a bunch of little Catholics for the future... young families struggling to raise large Catholic families in 2019, which is almost a heroic feat.
Shouldn't you make sure you will be financially able to raise a large family before doing so?

I mean having 1-3 children when you're poor is one thing, but 4, 5, 6 and beyond?

Re: Sexless marriages and very small families
« Reply #99 on: February 10, 2019, 03:35:38 AM »
Shouldn't you make sure you will be financially able to raise a large family before doing so?

I mean having 1-3 children when you're poor is one thing, but 4, 5, 6 and beyond?
One who is not financially able or willing to raise the children God gives him, should not consider marriage. Do you not consider that God knows your abilities and your limits better than you do? It is through the Sacrament of Marriage that the graces comes to bear and raise children.

Let no temptation take hold on you, but such as is human. And God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that which you are able: but will make also with temptation issue, that you may be able to bear it. [1 Corinthians 10:13]