Author Topic: Serious Question on Vocation (Read 4754 times)

spouse of Jesus · « **on:** October 20, 2009, 11:30:20 AM »

There is a reason for every thing.
The reasons people have for entering the religious life/priesthood/ consecrated life, are obivious: greater merit, more closeness to spiritual matters etc.
but what are reasons for choosing marriage?
There is the answer that my society gives to this question:
1-not to fall in sin
2-not to be lonely when old and ill.
3-to experience :baby:

But some of you say that the #1 is absurd, and that prayers and Sacraments are more powerful means for staying pure. About the #2, I haven't seen any catholic poster on any forum, who has such a motive. #3 is common among women, but not all of them look at babies as an end in itself.
So what is the catholic reason for giving up all the rewards and merits that a vowed life brings with itself?

(I am thinking about my Vocation, and a voice in my heart says:"what if you are called to marrige" but I think it is a shame to lose the reward that waits virgins in heaven....)

I am losing my energy on this....

HELP please.

gladius_veritatis · « **Reply #1 on:** October 20, 2009, 12:31:34 PM »

Sweet lady, do not lose patience or courage. Do not let this matter cause any loss of peace, as such is not from God. He wants you to be free and happy, and to walk joyfully in whatever way He has marked out for you.

The BEST reason for choosing ANY particular path is: God wills it.

RELAX: At the moment, you are not in a position to take EITHER path (not TODAY, anyway), so keep your peace, pray to God and Our Lady, and know that all will be well.

Choosing the right road can be hard at times, but it should not be a torture. BE AT PEACE, my lady - be at peace. Godspeed.

gladius_veritatis · « **Reply #2 on:** October 20, 2009, 12:35:47 PM »

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So what is the catholic reason for giving up all the rewards and merits that a vowed life brings with itself?

Married life IS a "vowed life", although the vow takes a different form. There are MANY rewards and merits to be had within the married state. The only question is: What path has God marked out for me? Walk therein, and the sky is the limit as to how much treasure you can lay up for yourself in heaven. I wish you peace of heart, my friend.

spouse of Jesus · « **Reply #3 on:** October 20, 2009, 12:47:22 PM »

Thank you Gladius.
But, in my country, a girl must beggin to learn many things while she is in her father's house. One must have learned them by the time she reaches the age of marriage or nobody will want to marry her. It is big shame if a girl enters her husband's house without them. (she will be an object of derision to all, there will be much quarreling between her and her man) Add to this all the "wife's skills" and "listening to your elders to teach you this or that" the takes much a girl's time every day.
The problem is that such things must beggin for me right now, if I ever want to marry, and learing such things will be a great distraction and confusion for me later if I am going stay celibate. My culture is different from your's the long process of preparation must beggin now.

spouse of Jesus · « **Reply #4 on:** October 20, 2009, 12:50:02 PM »

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The only question is: What path has God marked out for me?

Agreed but how will God show us His will? We are not prophets, we cannot hear any voice or receive any sign from Him.

gladius_veritatis · « **Reply #5 on:** October 20, 2009, 12:53:45 PM »

Even if you end up living a celibate life, you will still need to prepare food, clean clothes, keep the house in order, etc., so go about your duties as they presently exist. God's will is found in the present moment - not in the future. What you learn will serve you well no matter what follows.

gladius_veritatis · « **Reply #6 on:** October 20, 2009, 12:57:05 PM »

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Agreed but how will God show us His will? We are not prophets, we cannot hear any voice or receive any sign from Him.

No, but there are ways in which He normally operates in this matter. I cannot type them out or search online right now, but I will get you a basic list soon.

Btw, His messages are ALWAYS clear - we just don't SEE/HEAR clearly.

Please be at peace, my dear.

spouse of Jesus · « **Reply #7 on:** October 20, 2009, 01:10:53 PM »

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....but I will get you a basic list soon.

I am looking forward to it!

Caio di Corea · « **Reply #8 on:** October 20, 2009, 03:56:14 PM »

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St. Liguori: In the world it would be difficult for you to keep yourself in the grace of God. What I say to you, I repeat to all young women who come to ask my advice. I always remind them that, such is the corruption of the world, they will meet in it a thousand hindrances to their salvation. You should then fear to abandon Christ for the world.

http://cathom.blogspot.com/2009/10/exerpts-on-vocation.html

spouse of Jesus · « **Reply #9 on:** October 20, 2009, 08:21:31 PM »

dillema

gladius_veritatis · « **Reply #10 on:** October 20, 2009, 08:34:17 PM »

My sweet lady, keep your peace. Is someone on the verge of asking you to marry him? I have no reason to think so. Can you enter a convent tomorrow? Not as far as I know.

"Be still and know that I am God."

spouse of Jesus · « **Reply #11 on:** October 20, 2009, 08:45:40 PM »

The answer to both, is no.
I saw the websites of Franciscan, Dominican, and Carmelite sisters. I saw the necessary conditions they wanted every new comer to have. I lacked more than one of them. Not to mention the fact that many postulants are sent away as soon as the superiors find out that the girls have some weakness in body or mind that made them unsuitable for the Religious life.
Even if I moved to Europe or US to enter a convent, they would reject me.

gladius_veritatis · « **Reply #12 on:** October 20, 2009, 08:54:36 PM »

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Even if I moved to Europe or US to enter a convent, they would reject me.

Do you have the means to move? If not, do not trouble your mind about that.

God's will is perfect and powerful. Many times when there are obstacles to religious OR married life, if we are faithful in the little things, they are removed.

Above all, be calm, as if you were a little baby situated safely in the arms of her strong daddy. I sometimes think of the little Jesus in St Joseph's arms, mentally placing myself in God's arms in a similar manner.

Elizabeth · « **Reply #13 on:** October 20, 2009, 08:55:27 PM »

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dillema

I am praying for you.

Vladimir · « **Reply #14 on:** October 21, 2009, 09:34:03 AM »

Are you baptised yet?