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Telesphorus · « **Reply #75 on:** September 17, 2012, 12:53:35 PM »

There's one more point that's extremely important, and is often overlooked.

People tend to follow the examples around them.

In the past young women were not discouraged from marrying - and - were expected to marry, not to senselessly delay, or turn down good offers.

The result of that is that young women were competing for potential husbands. This encouraged men to try to act as good husband material. These tendencies reinforced each other, and reinforced marriage.

Now the young man looking for marriage is mocked by young women, young women who will laugh and say they aren't ready.

And what is the example that most young women are giving to their peers today? It is not good, not good at all.

Today, young women compete for those not interested in representing themselves as potential husbands and fathers, but rather for those who deliberately cultivate the image of the "bad boy" - to put it in crass terms.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #76 on:** September 17, 2012, 12:56:06 PM »

Quote from: Tiffany

That said though the group I've seen where most have large families often with more than 10 children has been in plain circles, not Catholic ones.

I don't mean to give the impression we should judge individual families. But statistically we can look at a parish and get an impression of what is probably happening.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #77 on:** September 17, 2012, 01:02:44 PM »

That's a very beautiful post PW. You're really a very effective writer, I wish my posts were as eloquent and convincing.

PenitentWoman · « **Reply #78 on:** September 17, 2012, 01:04:44 PM »

Quote from: spouse of Jesus

I am not saying that you are doing this, but it is what usually happens:
When two wonderful people meet, it is the girl who is really overjoyed at finding a unique guy and afraid of losing him. So she does anything in her power, do anything he says, just to keep him. After a while the guy realizes it, knows well how the girl is attached and learn a very bad thing: that he can ask for anything he wants, and none of his demands will be refused. Males have an instinct that tells them when a woman reaches this degree of fear of loss.
But it is just when the girl loses all her individuality and personal boundaries that the guy leaves her for a one that is a challenge. Then the girl feels empty, as if someone has sucked all her energy and then threw her away. Just the way you treat a bottle of cola: drink the juice, throw it in the bin.
If a guy really loves, he will respect her boundaries.

You're a smart one, Spouse. :cry:

PenitentWoman · « **Reply #79 on:** September 17, 2012, 01:12:42 PM »

Quote from: Telesphorus

That's a very beautiful post PW. You're really a very effective writer, I wish my posts were as eloquent and convincing.

Thank you. It's very kind of you to say that, although I'm not sure it is truly effective to very many people.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #80 on:** September 17, 2012, 01:23:34 PM »

Quote from: PenitentWoman

Quote from: Telesphorus
That's a very beautiful post PW. You're really a very effective writer, I wish my posts were as eloquent and convincing.

Thank you. It's very kind of you to say that, although I'm not sure it is truly effective to very many people.

It will matter to good-willed people who read it, that's what's important.

Loriann · « **Reply #81 on:** September 18, 2012, 08:38:22 AM »

Quote from: spouse of Jesus

I read the first post again and a rather general question came to my mind: does experiencing carnal temptations from very a young age mean one is molested in the past?

Acute sɛҳuąƖ awareness at a young age CAN mean there has been a form of exposure to nudity, sɛҳuąƖ material or behaviors-- OR it can just mean children find a part of their body that feels good and act upon it before they are formed to understand that these urges are to be controlled.

My advice to you, Sophia, is to get to a priest for advice. I will pray for you.