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Offline AMDGJMJ

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Re: Saint Raphael Meet-Up 2023
« Reply #15 on: September 17, 2023, 03:28:55 PM »
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  • I'm not Irish but Claddagh rings can show a person's availability, as it were, according to how these are worn:

      On the right hand with the heart worn outwards, it indicates that the wearer is single and available for courtship. Worn on the ring finger of the left hand with the heart outwards it shows that the heart is occupied, but not yet married. Worn on the left ring finger with the heart facing outward symbolizes an engagement. Worn on the left ring finger with the heart facing inwards the Claddagh Ring declares that the wearer is married.

    AMDGJMJ, I'm not saying to get Claddagh rings for all the attendees. But there could be some sort of color-coded system of wristbands or nametags, maybe optional to wear as each person wishes. 

    As for me, I'm echoing Seraphina and Fifteen Decades Daily! ::)
    I LOVE Claddagh rings!!!  And...  I am Irish to boot...  We actually met Father Chazal while visiting distant relatives in Ireland about 5 years ago. 😅

    Neat idea for the nametags!  Maybe we could add a sticker "open to courtship" on the name tags or would that be weird?

    Seraphina and Fifteen Decades Daily, I was thinking earlier that you both should exchange phone numbers.  🥰
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    Re: Saint Raphael Meet-Up 2023
    « Reply #16 on: September 17, 2023, 10:52:25 PM »
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  • Great suggestions!  Thank you, Matthew!

    We have been thinking of having introductions on Friday evening where everyone stands up and gives a short description of themselves and some of their hobbies.  Maybe that would be a good time to mention if they are currently open to courtship.

    We really appreciate any tips people can share.  All for the greater honor and glory of God!  😇🙏

    A couple points --

    1. Some people (especially ladies) can be very shy on this topic. That's why you need to make sure it doesn't get left out. BUT
    2. I think it would be best to go for SUBTLE, again, because a good feminine woman will be bashful about advertising herself. So I think "open to courtship!" would be too forward for some (many?). I think something more like a color code, the border around the nametag, or something.
    3. I should also add -- this color code is for the benefit of those seeking spouses AND those NOT seeking spouses. Both types will be interested in some kind of system, subtle but effective, to let everyone know who is available/interested in romantic attention -- and who is not.
    4. There's also the phenomenon that many people aren't open to love/marriage until they meet the right person -- then they totally change their mind. So you don't want to force them to commit to a person they are unaware of, who doesn't exist to them yet. It's kind of like going against nature. Just let them think they want to stay single. So you have to be careful how you word it -- I mean, how you ask them "are you open to courtship?". Now that might actually be a good way (the best way?) to ask the question; I'm not shooting it down. I'm just throwing this point about human nature out there.

    There are a ton of different ways to accomplish this, I'm sure.
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    Re: Saint Raphael Meet-Up 2023
    « Reply #17 on: September 18, 2023, 11:45:56 AM »
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  • Maybe we could add a sticker "open to courtship" on the name tags or would that be weird?

    Something clear but subtle like a green dot, as in "green light" might work, so long as none of the fellows are color-blind. Or some other little sticker with an obvious meaning? A little heart or rose or such. Anybody up on medieval flower symbolism?

    Another idea for the more shy/hesitant attendees would be to print in tiny typeface on little mailing labels that people could add to their name tags if they want, similar to car bumper stickers: "If you can read this, you're too close!" (Just a joke there, or maybe not! :laugh1:)
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    Re: Saint Raphael Meet-Up 2023
    « Reply #18 on: September 18, 2023, 11:52:34 AM »
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  • Something clear but subtle like a green dot, as in "green light" might work, so long as none of the fellows are color-blind. Or some other little sticker with an obvious meaning? A little heart or rose or such. Anybody up on medieval flower symbolism?

    Another idea for the more shy/hesitant attendees would be to print in tiny typeface on little mailing labels that people could add to their name tags if they want, similar to car bumper stickers: "If you can read this, you're too close!" (Just a joke there, or maybe not! :laugh1:)

    I like this idea, e.g. green dot. 
    Maybe like traffic lights:  Green for totally open to courtship, red for "not interested", and yellow for those like Matthew said:  "There's also the phenomenon that many people aren't open to love/marriage until they meet the right person -- then they totally change their mind."   

    Just kidding!  (except about the green dot idea) 

    Also, I got a chuckle from Soubirous' bumper sticker comment.
     :laugh1:



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    Re: Saint Raphael Meet-Up 2023
    « Reply #19 on: September 18, 2023, 09:24:48 PM »
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  • A couple points --

    1. Some people (especially ladies) can be very shy on this topic. That's why you need to make sure it doesn't get left out. BUT
    2. I think it would be best to go for SUBTLE, again, because a good feminine woman will be bashful about advertising herself. So I think "open to courtship!" would be too forward for some (many?). I think something more like a color code, the border around the nametag, or something.
    3. I should also add -- this color code is for the benefit of those seeking spouses AND those NOT seeking spouses. Both types will be interested in some kind of system, subtle but effective, to let everyone know who is available/interested in romantic attention -- and who is not.
    4. There's also the phenomenon that many people aren't open to love/marriage until they meet the right person -- then they totally change their mind. So you don't want to force them to commit to a person they are unaware of, who doesn't exist to them yet. It's kind of like going against nature. Just let them think they want to stay single. So you have to be careful how you word it -- I mean, how you ask them "are you open to courtship?". Now that might actually be a good way (the best way?) to ask the question; I'm not shooting it down. I'm just throwing this point about human nature out there.

    There are a ton of different ways to accomplish this, I'm sure.
    Good points!!!  Thank you!!! 

    And I like the idea of something more subtle.  We don't want to make things awkward for anyone.  :cowboy:
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    Re: Saint Raphael Meet-Up 2023
    « Reply #20 on: September 18, 2023, 09:27:09 PM »
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  • Something clear but subtle like a green dot, as in "green light" might work, so long as none of the fellows are color-blind. Or some other little sticker with an obvious meaning? A little heart or rose or such. Anybody up on medieval flower symbolism?

    Another idea for the more shy/hesitant attendees would be to print in tiny typeface on little mailing labels that people could add to their name tags if they want, similar to car bumper stickers: "If you can read this, you're too close!" (Just a joke there, or maybe not! :laugh1:)
    Oo!  I like that idea of a mini-emblem or green dot.  Maybe a little mini Holy Family sticker?  :popcorn:

    And lol...  That is a hilarious but great idea about the "small print"!!!  :laugh2:
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    Re: Saint Raphael Meet-Up 2023
    « Reply #21 on: September 19, 2023, 03:45:59 PM »
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  • I meant to write a reminder here this past Sunday but forgot...

    If there are any young women who are interested in coming to the event who would like a free place to stay, please let us know by this Sunday September 24th.  
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    Re: Saint Raphael Meet-Up 2023
    « Reply #22 on: September 19, 2023, 05:05:46 PM »
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  • I like this idea, e.g. green dot. 
    Maybe like traffic lights:  Green for totally open to courtship, red for "not interested", and yellow for those like Matthew said:  "There's also the phenomenon that many people aren't open to love/marriage until they meet the right person -- then they totally change their mind.

    Just kidding!  (except about the green dot idea)

    Also, I got a chuckle from Soubirous' bumper sticker comment.
    :laugh1:

    This is why it's sad that old-timey courtship signals fell out of favor.  Use of fans, flowers, even hats for a lady to let others know they could approach or not.  Even demure maidens could flirt!


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    Re: Saint Raphael Meet-Up 2023
    « Reply #23 on: September 22, 2023, 06:30:44 AM »
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  • This is why it's sad that old-timey courtship signals fell out of favor.  Use of fans, flowers, even hats for a lady to let others know they could approach or not.  Even demure maidens could flirt!
    Oh!  Yes!  You just gave me a great idea! Maybe a pinned flower to be a sign of open for courtship would be nice. 

    I remember from visiting in Hawaii that single girls wear flowers on the right side and girls who are spoken for wear flowers on the left (sort of like our standard for rings).
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    Re: Saint Raphael Meet-Up 2023
    « Reply #24 on: September 22, 2023, 06:32:32 AM »
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  • Just throwing out a reminder to any of the ladies interested in having a free place to stay for the event to please contact us by this Sunday, September 24th.
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    Re: Saint Raphael Meet-Up 2023
    « Reply #25 on: October 04, 2023, 05:01:43 AM »
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  • There are less than 3 weeks left for registration for anyone interested in signing up for the event.  
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    Re: Saint Raphael Meet-Up 2023
    « Reply #26 on: October 05, 2023, 04:23:47 PM »
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  • For any men from Michigan or Northern Ohio interested in the event:

    There is another man from the area looking for someone to travel with and share traveling expenses.
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    Re: Saint Raphael Meet-Up 2023
    « Reply #27 on: October 07, 2023, 08:29:12 PM »
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  • For any men from Michigan or Northern Ohio interested in the event:

    There is another man from the area looking for someone to travel with and share traveling expenses.
    Wish I could help, but I'm coming up from western North Carolina. I'd be willing to let others carpool with me if they're relatively close to I-77 or I-81 since that's the way I'll be heading up.

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    Re: Saint Raphael Meet-Up 2023
    « Reply #28 on: October 08, 2023, 09:15:00 PM »
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  • Wish I could help, but I'm coming up from western North Carolina. I'd be willing to let others carpool with me if they're relatively close to I-77 or I-81 since that's the way I'll be heading up.
    I am going to send you a PM. :cowboy:
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    Re: Saint Raphael Meet-Up 2023
    « Reply #29 on: October 13, 2023, 06:24:46 PM »
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  • Two weeks left for registration. :cowboy:
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