That is beautiful!

Matthew, I loved the initial quote. I was actually going to post it the same morning in the Have Relationships Become Disposable? thread for Tele since he asked Mater about "one spirit" in marriage. How coincidental is that!

It sure makes you think twice about mixed-marriages, doesn't it?

I know, sometimes they work out, the other spouse converts at some point. But how often does that NOT happen.

Go for the gold! You deserve it. Go for a marriage of two fervent Catholics -- besides, when you settle for "I guess I'll have to convert someone", you make it that much more difficult for those of your opposite gender to find good Catholic spouses...

I think I must be slow on the uptake or just plain confused about what you meant. I can’t see a Catholic ever putting converting someone to the One True Church in the negative connotation. I would never advocate a mixed marriage, but why would we eliminate the possibility of converting someone to Catholicism before marriage?

Saying that the gold can only be found amongst already fervent Catholics is terribly silly. Whatever “gold” is in a current Traditional Catholic, God could have just as easily given to someone else. I’m positive you know this. I’m also certain you know that He can use us - wretched creatures as we are - to place this gold in others. To enkindle in others the fire of Divine Love: what a grace! That’s probably one of the reasons you’re a parent. :)

I understand there are very limited Traditional Catholics to marry, and I truly sympathize with all those actively looking. But to anyone who doesn’t see the infinite treasure of converting a soul to Christ, I beg you to reconsider. Do you even comprehend how much your spouse would cherish you?  They can look you in the eyes and truly say, "By the grace of God, you saved me." In addition to which, you’d be doing the work of Christ! You’re becoming like to our own Blessed Mother. By converting a soul, you have become a mother of Christ. What a marvelous title for us little clumps of dirt!

As St. Augustine beautifully begs in a sermon on St. Matthew 12:50, “For whosoever does the will of My Father, that is in heaven, he is My brother, and sister, and mother”

It isn’t something out of your reach, not something beyond your powers, not something incompatible with what you are. You became children, become mothers too. You were the Mother’s children when you were baptized, then you were born as members of Christ. Bring whomever you can along to the bath of baptism, so that just as you became children when you were born, you may likewise be able, by bringing others along to be born, to become mothers of Christ as well.
Sermon 72A 8.

To all: Whether you be in the process of finding a mate or not, I pray with St. Paul in this morning's Epistle, "That you walk worthy of the vocation in which you are called. With all humility and mildness, with patience, supporting one another in in charity." And as he goes on to speak of the sublime purpose for the diverse graces we are each given in our vocations: "for the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edification of the Body of Christ till we all meet in the Unity of Faith." May God bless each and every one of you with fruitful missionary work all the days of your life and may we save our souls in the Precious Blood of Jesus Christ.

I should clarify my previous post:

When I spoke about converting someone, I was referring to marrying them with the hopes they will convert at some point in the future, rather than having a potential spouse convert BEFORE the marriage begins.

I knew someone years ago -- a traditional Catholic -- who married a protestant man in the Catholic Church. Fast forward several years, and they had 4 children together. The stresses of family life were too much, their "luv luv" infatuation died out, and they grew apart and actually got divorced. Of course, it was no earth-shattering deal for the protestant; he can marry again. As a postscript, he never did convert.

So when you marry someone with HOPE they will convert, please be aware of the UNHAPPY ENDINGS that happen every day; don't just focus on the few beautiful stories you've heard/encountered about how one spouse led the other to the Church.

There are a lot of people who treat a sede/sspx marriage as though it were disparity of cult.  

Pretty wrongheaded.  I guess you have to be very careful about marrying anyone bound to a cult.

It's OK, the sedevacantist might not be that cult-like in his behavior...I suppose it depends on the person, and where he/she goes to Mass.

(Hahaha, I'm sure you were referring to the SSPX side being cultish, but I couldn't resist because either side can be "culty"; if anything, I find that small, independent groups have an easier time forming a castle/seige mentality "Our little remnant here vs. the whole world" and forming a de-facto cult...)

Ah, yes. Few are called to convert their future spouse. Finding a nice devout traditional Catholic to marry is the prudent thing and wise in many cases. I would that we all became foolish for the love of Christ in souls. It seems but just, since He became as it were foolish for love of us.

Now I have this question: What are best ways do people here recommend to find and meet a potential traditional Catholic spouse considering the distance between many young traditional Catholics today?

I think most people recommend the traditional dating sites. If you don't have any candidates of interest at your chapel or through friends etc., I'm not sure of other options. Obviously praying and resignation to the Divine Will are a must! Ask and you shall receive. :)

My priest today in his sermon blasted mixed-marriages.  What Matthew said is exactly what he said, and I agree.  In a time like today, with all the modernism and feminism and immorality that is spreading around, you want to heap more potential trouble on yourself with a mixed marriage?

The priest then read a letter from a Protestant woman, five years after marrying a Catholic, that was pretty interesting.  She says something about how her husband once said he'd never marry a non-Catholic, that he could never fall in love with one, and then he did.  The woman then writes stingingly:  "I wish you had stuck to your guns."  She goes on to talk about how she didn't know how painful it would be to be stuck in a marriage where she feels like she's an outsider and condemned, and yet is going to be obligated to help get the kids to Catholic school and teach the catechism and so on.  She also mentions how it is like a constant invisible wall in their marriage, separating them.  

I don't see the appeal of living and raising children with someone who is outside the Church.  It's like being with a corpse, in a certain way.  All you have is the hope that they'll convert, but if they don't, you must really start to detach from them; and that is not good for the kids.  Whenever I'm around a Prot all I'm thinking about is converting them; but a marriage shouldn't be a constant struggle of one person to convert the other, that is not a happy situation.