Here is my point:
A nice day trip for the (large) family is a bit of extra work. You all come home tired and hungry, etc. Now "needing to eat" doesn't come as a surprise. A normal person would see that coming, right? Maybe I'm just Germanic but planning is second nature around here.
It's not fair, on a "family fun day", to put all the expense/extra burden on ONE person. As in, "the whole family is going to have fun, but not you, wife! You have a lot of hard work ahead of you! hahaha" Normally you just eat out -- it's part of the expense, like gas or price of admission. Either you can AFFORD the field trip or you CANNOT.
The husband in question was either autistic/oblivious, super COLD, super CHEAP, or crap as a planner. Either way, a doofus describes it best. And by "super" I mean "too much". I'm all about being frugal, but that doesn't mean it's impossible to be STINGY or CHEAP.